Can You Accept Being a Great Parent Without Control?
July 9, 2008 at 7:13 am | Posted in attitudes, children, dads, Families, GEM Parenting Secrets, moms, Mothers, parents, Wednesday Wisdom | Leave a commentTags: empowering parents, parent blogs, parent coaching, parent control, Parent Education, parent support groups, parental expectations, parenting, parenting styles, parenting with serenity, parents, Spirtual Parenting, the joy of parenting
As a parent you need to understand that you are in control of your child and at the exact same time you are as far removed from your child as an elephant in Africa.
You have an obligation as a parent to set up the most caring home you can: A home filled with love, positive guidance, and morals and values that you believe in. But as you know, this is a task that causes great anxiety. You are so stretched to your limits of parenting that some times you lose sight of how to create this home. And you trudge along hoping everything will be good in the end.
The saddest part of this picture is that often things turn out fine in the end. But the journey has been so difficult and so arduous that it hardly seems to matte any way.
What you want is to find a way to know the end of the journey is going to be good and at the same time to enjoy and relish your time as a parent.
Yesterday we talked about being granted serenity. If you have not reached any moments of serenity then you need to think of how you are trying to get it. If there is any begging, neediness, or whining for it, you are can try being more gentle with yourself and with your eternal energy.
Today we are going to talk about “accepting the things I cannot change.” Every moment that we are alive we are out of control. We cannot truly control anything or anyone.
When you look at life this way you can let go of the things that bug you, drive you crazy, and keep you up at night. Know that you can not actually change things. Know that change happens, and reactions happen to what you do.
How does this kind of thinking change your parenting? As a parent you may have been trying to set everything up to be just perfect, or even as nearly perfect, as you are humanly capable of doing for your family. This of course is well and good.
The problem comes because of all the glitches. And these glitches, large and miniscule, gnaw at your insides, put overwhelm in everything you do- from breathing to actually reading a story to your children.
When you “accept the things I cannot change” you no longer have to be in control. You now have the privilege to see yourself as one who influences, who guides, and can set things in motion. But the weight of perfection is gone.
You are a wonderful parent filled with love and caring. Remember you have serenity. Now with accepting that which you cannot change, you have freedom to truly love and cherish your children.
Loving and cherishing your children is the number one best thing you can do to set the motion for your children live the most fantastic life they can. And it starts today!
Accept the things you cannot change. Put serenity into its proper place in your parenting. And see how the nagging, headache causing stresses that surround you and your children begin to evaporate.
You are welcome to share your acceptance of the things you cannot change and how that freed you to love and cherish your children.
If you have a major acceptance please share, and if you have something that is so trivial and insignificant please share that as well.
Everyone needs to hear how you are able to use this information.
As always, Parent with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity.
Grace
Motivational Monday: The Joy of Parenting
June 10, 2008 at 8:32 am | Posted in attitudes, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, peer pressure, relationships, Self Esteem, Thoughtful Thursday, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a commentTags: activities, attitude, crafts, dad, expert, expert article, gem parenting, grace mauzy, joy, mom, parenting, parents, peer pressure, respect, Self Esteem, the joy of parenting
The first thing I want to give you is a great big Welcome to GEM Parenting. Have you come to GEM Parenting with anxiety about your children, worries about how to discipline them, and with a heart ache because you really thought being a parent would have some joy in it?
One of the most over looked and least understood areas of parenting is the joy. When you find joy in parenting your anxieties and worries seem to drift away. You are aware of how and what to do.
Parents that I have led to their own joy of parenting have been able to introduce positive intervention, live with high self-esteem, and be free of social and media pressures to conform to.
This week is your opportunity to bring joy to your parenting. For today I want you to pay particular attention to one single aspect of your child that you cherish. Disregard everything else. Do it for one whole day. At the end of the day come back and share what happened.
EnJoy your parenting.
Here’s what’s happening this week.
Terrific Tuesday:
I will be sharing a personal experience of finding joy in my parenting. You know I think it is great to be all learned and experienced, but if I can’t share what and how I do things you just can’t really get what I’m talking about. So I hope you will come back and see some joy.
Wisdom Wednesday:
Wednesday, I will put on the hat of the expert. I will explain the joy of parenting from the standpoint of the problem and the solution.
Thoughtful Thursday:
On Thursday, I am going to share with you a case study of a client I have worked with. Not in a scientific research way, but I hope in a way that is enlightening and enjoyable to read.
Follow up Friday:
On Fridays, I have a free radio show and it is completely your questions and my answers. There is no sermon, no didactic -That means teacher talks student listen – teaching. Only your questions that I answer on the spot.
There are a couple of things that do happen as well, I do have surprises for the listeners. And especially for the first call in of the day.
If you want to be sure that your question is answered then mail it to me, Grace@GEMParenitng.com. The first question I receive each week will get a ticket to join a live teleclass.
Also, if you are unable to attend the live show, there is a recording. So you can still send in your question.
Saturday is Creative Crayon Club:
And of course you will be getting ideas of how to bring joy to your house and your parenting.
It’s a busy week for you, I know. You are a parent with worries, concerns and fears. So, come back each day to gain a bit more peace and guidance to being one amazing parent filled with joy of parenting.
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