Motivational Monday: Why Vote

November 3, 2008 at 10:43 am | Posted in dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | Leave a comment
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Good Motivational Monday Morning

 

Just a quickie today.

You are probably reeling from last week’s entries.

 

I do want to thank those of you who shared GEM Parenting with your friends.

It was great to see the response.

 

Today, I want to be on the bandwagon to motivate you to vote.  It is such an important thing for you to do, as a parent especially.  You are voting for right now, but you are also voting for tomorrow, for your kids’ future.  So on that note, take your time and effort and do it.

 

Another reason it is important to vote is to make yourself commit to something.  These days we have so many choices and so anxiety producing to make a choice we often just go along with the flow, even if it makes us stressed and sick to do so.

 

Let your children know about your voting, take them with you and let them know what a privilege it is to be part of the nation that began this amazing opportunity.

 

That’s it for today. 

And as always,

Parent with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity.

 

Grace

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Three confusions about Halloween

October 31, 2008 at 9:41 am | Posted in dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | Leave a comment
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Happy Halloween

 

There are three topics that get confused with Halloween. 

 

  1. Candy consumption and weight gain
  2. Safety
  3. The purpose of Halloween right now

 

When you head out tonight if you start with the understanding that Halloween is for getting candy, eating it, and starting on the annual weight gain problem you are going to do just that. 

 

If you head out tonight thinking that there are lurking dangers around each corner, again you will find some kind of danger.

 

And if you think that Halloween has any connection to very past beliefs of satanic forces and ideas being spread you will find these.

 

Rather than heading out with all these fear-routed issues, look to the positive.  This is a great place to begin your new thought pattern.  Finding you new zone as a parent takes time and skill.  So start with something that is not your biggest issue.  Try out what you are learning here at GEM Parenting and elsewhere on smaller issues at first.

 

Just as when your children have started to walk they have prep activities.  Nothing that we actually do with them, but they crawl, slide, or scuttle for a while.  They attempt new things, standing for instance.  Then they try the first few steps.  Holding on usually.  You know how it goes.  And of course they fall.  But that never stops them.

 

As with your new parenting patterns and practices you need to step out slowly, try little things at first and know you will fall.  But keep trying.  Keep reading these entries and any others that help you along the way.

 

Now back to tonight-

 

With candy consumption and weight gain, leave on a full stomach of a healthy meal.  Then eat a candy, you included, in 20 minutes.  Again in 20 minutes, then have a snack of healthy stuff- cut up apples, PB&J sandwich quarters.  Then back to the candy in 20 minutes routine.  Tell your kids you want to see how much they get and if they eat it all while out then they can’t see.

 

Another thing we do is give a bunch of candy to the children’s ward of the hospital for the kids who couldn’t go out.  This helps with not eating as much.

 

Of course you need to think in terns of safety.  But if you think in terms of fear, that is what you will be fearful.  And you will teach this to your kids.  Teach safety, not fear.  This goes a long with teaching about self-esteem and contentment.

And if you are concerned with satanic issues and Halloween, then I suggest you look elsewhere.  Halloween has changed in the past few hundred years.  It is time for delight, joy and creativity.  Children are encouraged and allowed to be something unique and special.  These are corner stones to high self-esteem.

 

With this I am getting ready to curl my daughter’s hair and put on some goofy costume to begin the Halloween activities. 

 

Have a Happy Halloween and

Parent with Passion, Purpose and Integrity,

 

Grace

Went to see Olympic Gymnastic Tour Last Night

October 30, 2008 at 8:32 am | Posted in children, dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | Leave a comment
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Last night my family went to see the Olympic Gymnast tour.  It was fantastic.  Those kids were out there having a ball.  The spectators worshiped them.  And those athletes gave us such a show.  They were able to decide and accomplish a goal within only their childhoods.   Why is that?

 

Did they just have such amazing talent that they were able to think and believe and therefore be in the Olympics?  Of course not.   I do believe in prayer and the law of attraction.  But in either case you MUST open the door and walk through. 

 

That’s what those kids and their parents and their coaches did.  They did not simply think about a dream.  They put it in action.  And it was done as a group program.  The athletes alone did not do it.  We all know that their parents were totally committed to the dream.  And these athletes had coaches.  The coaches worked with their athletes on so many levels.  Of course they worked on the actual physical performance of their athletes, but they added in nutrition, emotional and psychological aspects, developmental stages, and a sundry of other aspects of taking a child and helping them become and amazing athlete.

 

And these kids knew instinctively that they had to have coaches.  The coaches would sometimes give them grueling workouts, other times hug them after the fall, and of course celebrate the joys of success.  Having coaches was a natural part of the program.

As a matter of fact without coaches there wouldn’t be a program and there wouldn’t be action of a dream.

 

Think about your dream as a parent.  Put it in action today. 

 

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Next Monday Donna L. Johnson and I will be hosting

Your Dreams and Dumps

A teleseminar on getting out your woes of parenting and being a woman,

Yet having the intention of living your dreams.

 

This is a program set up for you at no cost.

Just a phone call away.

 

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Halloween is tomorrow

 

Get into the fun with your kids.  If you trick or treat get on a costume, your kids will always love it.  It is silly, fun and on their level.

 

If you do not trick or treat be mindful that your children will feel left out.  Give them something special to do.  Use the time for togetherness with your family.  Be sure to explain your family values and morals as to why you don’t trick or treat in terms of the good to your family, not the wrong of others.

 

As for my family, we will be out and about trick or treating.

It is one of our favorite things to do.

 

Put your dream in action

And parent with

Passion, Purpose, and Integrity

 

Grace

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Wake up and love this day

October 27, 2008 at 10:04 am | Posted in children, dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | 2 Comments
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Wow.  It’s motivational Monday again. I always love this day:  starting off and writing to you about how you can motivate yourself to be the best parent possible.  How you can truly parent with passion, purpose, and integrity.

 

I am motivating you to find the sleeping spot in your life. Give it a twitch. Wake up and love this day.

 

This week I am going to start off with two requests.  If you read last weeks Motivational Monday message you know I urged you to take the plunge.  Start changing your parenting.  And I suggested one way was to work with me.

 

Well, I had not one plunge taker.  Which would be fine, except last week my last client graduated.  This puts me in an awkward position.  I need to have GEM Parenting grow.  Even though I would dearly love to simply give everything I have to you for free, our culture doesn’t work that way.  I have bills to pay in relation to GEM Parenting.

 

So I am asking you to do two things for me, very low budget.

 

First I want each of you to tell one friend about GEM Parenting and the Pearl memebership.

As a matter of fact if you go overboard and have five friends sign up for the Pearl membership between Oct. 27 and Nov. 2  I will have a teleclass for you and your friends at no cost, complete with action guide and article.

 

Just send them the link to GEMParenitng.com and urge them to sign up in the yellow box.

Then send me a list of whom you sent emails to.

And if you are new you can count yourself in too.

 

The second request I have will cost $6.00.  I want each of you to go the GEM Parenting store and actually purchase one podcast.  With most podcasts you get an action guide and an article written in conjunction with podcast topic.  There are currently 24 podcasts, so I am sure there is one that can boost your parenting.  And they cost as much as a Starbucks visit. 

 Just to go GEMParenting.com/store.htm

 

If you can’t afford this, either you are truly poor or you don’t really want to try and change your parenting.  

 

If you want to change but $6 is honestly beyond your budget then shoot me an email and I will work something out for you.

 

With these two steps you will be helping both yourself and GEM Parenting.  As you know I am not a sales person.  I don’t ask for much from you. You can step up to the plate now and make this change for both of us.

 

And tomorrow I will be writing about The Sleeping Foot Disorder of Parenting.

 

Now, right now, send an email to at least one friend inviting them to GEM Parenting

and if you haven’t joined yet go ahead and join.

And then go directly to the GEM store and get your podcast.

 

Thanks and know the change you make is for both you and GEM Parenting.

 

As always Parent with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity,

 

Grace           

PS If you have comments about this letter I would love you to share them.

 

 

Peace and Harmony After you get Home from Vacation?

July 31, 2008 at 6:26 am | Posted in children, dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | Leave a comment
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Personal Message

 

I have really been taking advantage of the summer these past two weeks.  Last week I went camping with my two youngest children and one of their friends.  We had such a great time.  I had no computer or phone reception.  I had really intended on getting in the car and going to check my messages, write the newsletter, and just do a few keep in touch things.  But I got completely caught up in the camping!  It was such a wonderful way for me to let my soul rejuvenate.  Each morning I would get up and do my yoga and meditation outside.  Breakfast, lunch, and dinner cooked over the fire.  Bike riding, canoeing, blueberry picking, and pretending we were living in some other century were our activities.  The week was full of peace and harmony. 

 

This week I have visited with an old friend I haven’t seen for eight (yes 8) years.  And gotten my teenager ready to head off to Chile for the month of August.  She leaves today.  And if you know anything about a teenage girl- even the best of them have WAY too much stuff.  We had to redo the packing- got everything, 4 pairs of skis, poles, boots, and winter clothes all in two ski bags. 

 

I am in a mix of excitement for her to go, sadness she will be gone so long, and actually relieved I am not going this year.  As a family we have all gone for the past five years.

 

My feature article is how to have peace and harmony even when you get home from vacation, or especially if you are unable to go on one.

 

 

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Feature article

 

Maintain Peace and Harmony After You Get Home From Vacation?

 

So often when you go away for vacation you are sure that it will refresh and rejuvenate you.  You know that this time you will come home and have peace within your family.  You will know you will keep the harmony going.  But as soon as you get back- whammo!- The squabbles repeat themselves.  The pace simply doesn’t change no matter how much you promise yourself you will slow down.  You get exhausted just in a day or two and wonder if it was even true that you went on a vacation.  You wonder if anyone really can live in peace and harmony, not be overwhelmed with the daily minutia, and be stress free.

 

Generally when you get home from vacation you believe you need to jump back into your old patterns.  And this may be partially true.  But you can make adjustments and changes.  The main reason that you can relax when on vacation is because you can actually be yourself.  In the back of your mind – sometimes right out in the open- you know you will not see any of these people again so you know you don’t need to make yourself behave in a way that is against your natural self.  This is freeing.  It is liberating and it allows you to have a great time when on vacation.  You worry less.  You are not overwhelmed.  And you know the tired you feel at the end of the day is a healthy and natural tired, not one from stress and anxiety.

 

The real problem is; what do you do to keep being yourself even when you have all these pressures and commitments when you get back?  You just can’t let go of all your responsibilities. 

 

And you are absolutely right.  But you can change one major part of yourself.  That is being yourself, even when pressured, full of time commitments, and everything is piling up again.  Each time you feel the twinge of losing that peaceful vacation feeling check out how you are stepping away from being yourself.  Are you following someone else’s way of being?  Are caught up in the social pressures to conform?  Are you too busy to allow yourself to take a moment to rejuvenate? 

 

You may not even be able to answer these when you get back into the rushed, hectic, and stress inducing lifestyle you generally live in.  But these are the main things that stop the rejuvenated and peaceful feelings you had over vacation from being a part of your daily life when you get back.

 

To keep yourself rejuvenated, to stay true to your soul, to have peace and harmony for you and your family when you get back from vacation, ask yourself, “Does it really matter what those around me think of how I do things?”  Know in your heart that the way you run your house, raise your kids, and what you eat is for the best for your family. 

 

Make the changes in your daily life to be able to live with harmony with yourself.  For the next week pick one thing each day that you do because of outside pressure and change what you do, how you think about it, and why you do it, to follow your heart. 

 

As a parent it is essential to maintain your self-esteem, your inner peace, and live in harmony with your soul.  When you do this, you will be able to parent with purpose, passion, and integrity.

 

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One of the greatest difficulties I have with GEM Parenting is letting parents know help is simple, available, and (yes) inexpensive. 

 

Here is your chance to help your friends find GEM Parenting.  For the month of August each time you have five friends sign up for the Pearl Membership you will be able to choose any of the GEM Parenting podcasts as my way of thanking you for sending your friends to GEM Parenting.

 

And if you are the person who has the most friends sign up for the Pearl membership, you get to have a one 1 ½ hour teleclass designed just for you and your friends. 

All you need to do is click this link and fill in your friends’ names.  Then you can follow up with them to be sure they actually sign up.  But even if you don’t I will keep track of who has referred who and who has signed up.

 

Good luck and thanks for spreading the joys of GEM Parenting with others.

 

Terrific Tuesday

June 24, 2008 at 10:02 am | Posted in children, dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem, Terrific Tuesday, Tweens | 2 Comments
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Terrific Tuesday

 When you are confused as to what and why you do things with your kids you are very likely to be caught in the product side of parenting.  You are trying to figure out what will be the best thing for your kid in the long run.  You are so confused with all the offerings that are available.  You really can’t figure out what to do.  Except try and see what others are doing and hope that since so many others are doing something that it must a good thing.  But will it really be the right thing for your kids?

 Just writing about this makes me dizzy.  And for you who is in the muddle of it all- Please notice muddle is on purpose- you are more than dizzy.  You are up at nights wondering and worrying if you have it right.  What can you do better.  Which choice should you make?  What is the best for your family?

 

Well, rather than get in this ridiculous bind you are in, step out.  You are in the product mode. You are looking at parenting as a mode to get a result, a product. When you switch to the process mode the answers are easy.  The time in the process is enlightening, and although there are still many challenges in front of you, the challenges are invigorating rather than energy depleting.

Enough of that and onto some of my own personal real life examples of using process rather than product parenting. 

 

One of my daughters is a dancer.  She dances four days a week in lessons and many days out of lessons.  And I have two daughters who love to dance, but not quite to the same extent.  This past weekend we just had their recital. 

 The dancers from age three to twenty were instructed in the joy and beauty of dance through out the year.  The actual practice of the recital dances began in early April for some and not until May for others.  The studio chooses to teach dance rather than recital performance. 

 

 As the classes get done learning their recital dances each class and all parents, siblings, and whoever else is around watches the dances.  This is great fun.  The girls love to watch the other dancers and they love to dance for each other. 

 

 Yes, this takes some time away from the “instruction.”  But it also prepares everyone for the actual show. 

 

 When the actual show happens there is one dress rehearsal on the stage the evening before the recital.  And for the past three years that I have been part of this, the whole time is spent in the splendor of being dancers rather than showing a product that is being performed. 

 

 From the director to the babies, there is an atmosphere of pleasure, excitement, and the love of doing ones best, and of course dancing.

 

 Oh, I completely forgot the costumes.  Each dancer gets a T-shirt.  It is a coveted shirt, with a simple design on it.   The colors have been magenta, teal blue, and this year black.  Yep.  Everyone has the same basic costume.  Then they elaborate with old-fashioned dress ups!!! Or maybe simple home made tie die shirts.

 

 And you know what happens?  The dancers are dancers.  They are not a part of the show.  The dancers are the show.  It seems weird for many of you that not having glitzy costumes and practicing for months on a single performance piece would create anything but second rate dancers. 

 

But let me tell you otherwise.  I have been involved with dance studios as a mother for about twenty years.  And as a dancer myself for about ten years.  That makes thirty years of connections with dance studios.  And this is the dance studio that children- boys and girls- can love to dance.

 

 Why? They teach dancing through the process.  The product of a “show” is not the integral or even important part of the studio ethics.  They teach and dance for the sheer joy of teaching and dancing. 

 

 Although the studio’s main concern is not about the future of the dancers, their desire is to have the dancers love to dance, every year there are seniors who go ff to college majoring in dance, kids who spend the summer at highly coveted places such as The Boston Ballet, The Philadelphia Ballet, and Steps on Broadway.

 

The result of process teaching is to have kids love doing what they are doing AND the result turns out to be wonderful.  Even though t is not the actual goal.

Take the step out and use process for your parenting.  The result, product, will happen anyway, so why not enjoy the journey?  Have peace and know that you are giving your children the special gift of living and loving the moment- With that they will live a life with high self-esteem void of the panic and worry that you have.

 

 Grace

 

 PS the studio is called Ninth State Dance Studio

You can check them out at theninthstate.com

 

I would love to hear about something in your parenting that is process rather than product oriented.  it really helps others when you share!

 

Tickle Me Tuesday: The Joy of Parenting…Wisdom from Grace

June 10, 2008 at 8:45 am | Posted in attitudes, children, Families, Family Time, GEM Parenting Secrets, moms, Mothers, parents, relationships, Self Esteem | Leave a comment
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The Joy of Parenting

When you hear these words, is the first thought that comes to your mind the Joy of Cooking?  Well, if it wasn’t now, it is.  There are some significant similarities and some vast differences between cooking and parenting.

The two major differences between parenting and cooking are:

  • If you burn the meal you can always make another one.
  • If you screw up the kids, you have to figure out how to unscrew up the kids.  You can’t just get a new set.
  • Although a cookbook can have thousands of recipes in it, if you truly follow the instructions exactly, there is little room for failure of the one dish you are making.
  • Not so with kids.  If you do get a recipe, it can be completely useless for your kid.  And can even backfire.  With kids you need to take in the information that is given you and adjust for your entire family.

And these differences make you, the parent, anxious, fearful, confused and overwhelmed.  When you get stuck in these emotions with your parenting, things begin to go wrong. 

The joy of parenting seems to be non-existent for you.  And in fact it is.  Oh, you may have a few glimmers and fleeting moments of that joy.  And you can really see it in other parents and kids.  But where is it for you?  Why can’t you just get the book and figure out the recipe?  Obviously people have been raising kids forever.  So why is it so hard for you to find and actually live fulltime with the joy of parenting?

Your answer is where you are looking for it.  How do you think it will come to you?  I am not going to say simply look in your heart and you will find the answers.  You already have done that.  Or just let it come to you.  You have probably tried that as well.  And besides, if that were all it took, then there would be none of the issues that you have!

No my dear, it takes much more than that simple inward glance or waiting till it gets to you to have joy in your parenting. 

If you are missing the joy of parenting, you need to purposefully bring joy to your parenting.  But how do you bring joy to your parenting and where is this illusive joy hiding in the first place?

Now is the part where the joy of cooking and the joy of parenting come together. 

By following the recipe in the cookbook, you can have one pretty good dish.  By following this recipe of parenting you can have one aspect of the joy of parenting. 

When you make one great dish, you are inspired to make another one.  As you continue to make recipes you become more excited and interested in cooking.  And when one flops, no big deal.  Just make another one. 

With parenting it really is the same.  When you find one way to have joy in your parenting, you become excited.  You are confident.  You create more and more ways to have joy in your parenting.  And if one way flops to bring joy, it is not the whole parenting that has flopped.  It is not your kids that have flopped.  And in many cases the flop is so funny that there is still some joy in the humor of it.

Here is what you want to know – How to get that first bit of joy into your parenting; opening the door so that you can have the excitement and confidence to gain more and more joy in your parenting.  

Start with using respect for your children and respect for your parenting.  With mutual respect you are no longer looking for something on the outside or hoping it will just appear.  This is purposeful.  When you use a recipe you do things in a purposeful way.

Here are four things to do to be respectful of your children.

1.  Ask them a question that is specific. 

  • “Did you jump rope with Sally today?”
  • “Where you able to answer most of the questions on your math test?” 
  • “How did you skin your knee?”

2.  When your child answers, you look them in the eye.  Be listening only to them.  Multitasking masks the joy of parenting.

3.  When your child comes to you and wants your attention, either give it to them fully or let them know when you will be available.  Then you must set your timer and be available when you say you will be.  It is no different than you wanting them to go to bed, come to dinner, or get ready for school. 

4.  Stop always multitasking when you are with your kids.  Make real commitments to do one simple thing with your children each day.  It can be as simple as talk to them for a conversation without TV, computer, cooking, homework, or anything else going on.

I know this may be hard- you are so trained in multitasking and your children are so accustomed to you being involved in at least two things at any given moment that you both find this awkward.  That’s OK.  The first time you use a recipe book it is awkward.  Just have a simple and complete conversation. 

When you follow this simple recipe for respect to your children, you will automatically gain respect in one aspect of your parenting. 

You will see that using respect brings joy to parenting.  It takes away the tension, fear and anxieties.  You are confident.  Your family has high self-esteem.  In a nutshell, respect will bring joy to your parenting.

Grace E. Mauzy, M.A.
Founder of GEM Parenting
www.GEMParenting.com

Grace E. Mauzy, MA works with overwhelmed, stressed parents having difficulty comfortably cope with parenting. Parents learn positive intervention utilizing strategies and tactics to develop high self-esteem in children. Grace is the founder of GEM Parenting – an online community dedicated to parenting with passion, purpose, and integrity. (GEMParenting.com) Through Grace’s professional and personal life experiences, she has a unique ability to understand and empower parents to implement new parenting styles, allowing them to challenge themselves to break free of their destructive behaviors and attitudes.  And raise their children with confidence, peace, and harmony.  To learn more about her powerful speaking, coaching, and workshops, or to receive Grace’s motivating audio course “The 7 Deadly Mistakes Parents Make That Create Spoiled Brats – And How You Can Avoid Them!” visit http://www.7deadlymistakesparentsmake.com or visit http://www.GEMParenting.com.

Tickle Me Tuesday: Dr. Rebbie Straubing’s Expert Article on The Healing Power of Love

April 8, 2008 at 7:11 am | Posted in 1, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Diet / Nutrition, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, marriage, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, relationships, Self Esteem, siblings, spirituality, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, toddlers, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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The Healing Power Of Love

by Rebbie Straubing

In praise of love, lift your gaze and open your heart. In service to love, open your hands and let go of your burden. In a world that lives by the motto, “Seeing is believing,” how do we come to believe in the power of the invisible? You cannot see love and yet it is beautiful. You cannot touch love and yet it can heal you.

The Body of Love. Why bother cultivating the presence of love in your life? This invisible protein builds your muscles. It makes you strong. This unseen balm brightens your face and makes your skin glow. This hidden vitamin provides the missing ingredient that fixes what’s broken and upgrades your functioning. It lubricates your joints and smoothes your digestion. It balances your metabolism and maximizes your brainpower. Your body, when permeated with love, is a brand new body. All parts work in harmony and you become the best version of you.

The Love Within. Where do you find this love that solves all your problems? It resides within every particle of your being. Within each atom, cell, organ and system of your body, you can find another dimension of love. All you have to do is look for it and it will reveal itself to you.

Is one atom more beautiful than another? Yes. The atoms infused with the energy of love compose themselves into things of beauty. In your imagination, call forward the love within your atoms. Atoms are made of love so it is not difficult for them to comply. They are happy to have their love called forward and they shine more brightly as you ask this of them.

Atoms of love build cells of love. Speak to your cells. Ask them to show themselves as love. Call upon their nature as love. See your cells honoring and loving each other and in love with their job as faithful units of your body’s structure. Feel their enthusiasm for the well-being of the organs they form. With atoms flowing love into your cells and cells brightly shining their love into your organs, feel the invisible beauty of the love that shapes each of your parts.

Built from love, they function with ease and cheerfulness and together they form systems of magnificent functioning based on the brilliance and genius of love. These systems, infused with love, beating your heart, breathing your air, digesting and metabolizing, generate a field of power and delight that extends far beyond your skin. This field beautifies not only your body, but your home and your relationships. This love that comes from deep within you, spreads far beyond you and ignites love in others.

The Mind of Love. By consciously calling to you the love tone within every level of your body, your mind becomes tuned to love. Thoughts that ring in harmony with the love between your cells coalesce in your mind. You perceive them as moments of realization. The solution to a problem may appear to your mind plain as day. Even though you were struggling long and hard with this dilemma, now, effortlessly, in the hum of love, the pieces of the puzzle come together in your awareness and the problem dissolves. An insight of depth and clarity replaces your angst. The mind of love is a well-oiled machine and it can lift burdens with more ease and effectiveness than the most powerful steel machinery. It can advance your life with more precision and value than the most cutting edge technology.

Speak to Love. Although you cannot see love and you cannot touch love, you can speak to love. You can call its name and it will hear. You can ask love to reveal itself more and more to you. You can praise love for its infinite abundance and nurturing presence. You can understand love as the foundation of the universe and of who you are. You can know love as the invisible face of God.

Dr. Rebbie Straubing is the author of ”Rooted in the Infinite.” Rebbie is a workshop leader, Abraham Coach and spiritual writer. You can get her free eCourse at http://YOFA.net and sign up for YOFA jhe Sessions at www.AlignmentforHealing.com. Tel: (248)569-3888 Email Address: info@phenomenews.com Fax: (248)569-4512 phenomeNEWS · 18444 West 10 Mile Rd. Suite 105 · Southfield, MI 48075

You can download a copy of Dr. Rebbie Straubing’s article in .pdf form. Just click here!

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Thoughtful Thursday: GEM Parenting Secrets Presents: STOP WHINING!

April 3, 2008 at 1:34 pm | Posted in 1, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, How To, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, relationships, Self Esteem, siblings, spirituality, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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What you missed in yesterday’s teleseminar… 

GEM PARENTING SECRETS PRESENTS: Stop Whining!

GEM Parenting SecretsStop Whining Children – Create High Self Esteem

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… but the Podcast is available now

Eradicate whining from Your Children’s Behavior, And create high self-esteem behavior in its place!

Every time you have to listen to your children whine one you cringe at the sound, want to scream and make them stop, but you feel trapped by this way your children talk then this is the teleseminar for you.

Learn why whining has become so prevalent. How it lowers your children’s self esteem and how you can actually stop the behavior. And at the same time increase your children’s natural high self-esteem.

For only $5.99 you can listen to this podcast and find out the best ways to stop whining in your children and have a family filled with high self-esteem. Includes G.E.M. Action Guide, Expert Article, and Grace’s Personal Article.

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Wednesday Wisdom: Stop Whining in Kids, Increase Their Self-Esteem

April 1, 2008 at 11:59 pm | Posted in 1, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, How To, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, relationships, Safety, Self Esteem, siblings, spirituality, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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Whining in kids has become an epidemic. Everywhere you go kids whine, and the worst part is parents can’t figure out what to do to stop this annoying behavior. Many parents think their kids will outgrow it, but you can see more and more young adults whining – having been raised with this behavior as the norm. Whining doesn’t automatically go away.

Not only does whining stay unless another behavior is taught to replace it, whining will decrease the whiner’s self esteem. So by letting your child continue to whine you create stress and tension for yourself and actually encourage your child to have low self-esteem.

How has whining become such a major part of our culture? It goes back to how the media is marketing to us and we are responding. We have so many role models in the public media who whine, both in their professional parts and in their private lives that we are beginning to think of whining as a natural and acceptable form of communication. But we all know, no matter what, we hate to hear whining from other people, especially our own kids.

What can you do as a parent to stop whining in your house, if there is so much rampant whining going on in all directions around you? I suggest a simple three-part process. First, you need to change your attitude and thoughts about whining. Second, you need to implement some behavior changes in yourself and your children. Third, you need to follow through with these changes for at least eight weeks.

Changing your attitude about whining can be truly simple. Each time you hear whining around you, don’t have a huffy breath response. Instead say to yourself, “That’s whining. I don’t like it. It is not acceptable in my house.” This is for ANY whining– TV, radio, magazines, books, friends, your children’s friends, you, your spouse, and of course your children. Some people like concrete evidence of their changes. To do this, make a two-column chart. On the left will be the time and place you allowed whining in your house. On the right will be the time and place you chose to not accept whining in your house. Obviously, you want the right side to become longer than the left. For two weeks just jot down what you think. This gives you the opportunity to really see where all the whining is.

After two weeks, you will begin to put actions behind your thoughts. Now that you are fully aware of where the whining is, and have begun to repeatedly say to yourself that you do not accept whining in your house, it is time to go public. You may think this will be pretty hard because, as you see, you have whining everywhere. But it can be simple. Each time whining occurs around you, say to the whiner – even objects – “I am making a change in our house. Since I know changes are hard we need to work together. Whining is not acceptable in our house. Let’s hit the rewind button. With the rewind button you can say what you want without whining.” This is a cut and dry version. Sometimes it is easiest to start with this exact wording. But if you can put humor and fun in it, both you and your family will enjoy the changes.

The third step is to follow through with these changes for eight weeks. It takes six weeks to form a new habit, so by going to eight the changes will no longer be a new habit. Whining will be gone from your house.

Enjoy your whine-free day!

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