Parents-Encourage and Inspire your Girl Athletes

May 1, 2011 at 8:00 pm | Posted in Self Esteem | 1 Comment
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I didn’t get any exercise for me in today.  Still I had a great day-  I watched two lacrosse games.  The first was U13 girls- meaning the girls were all younger than 13 on Jan 1 2011.  This team has 16 players with 8 who have never played before and the girls range down in age to 8- So a very inexperienced and young team.  The first half was a wash out.  The other team totally creamed us.  1-13.

Not really sure how a coach could have allowed or encouraged such a slaughter at this age, but instead of totally giving up my daughter’s team kept trying.  We had two time outs when the coach spent the time totally encouraging the girls.  There was so much she could have been negative about, but she chose to talk about every little strength that the girls gave.  She also gave them specific practical skills to try.  After each time out the girls came back stronger.

The second half was a new game, with the final score being 4 to 14 (or the half being 2-3 in our favor)  So what made this difference?  Why didn’t these girls play this way for the first half?  And most importantly why did these girls go for it the second half?

Of course I told you about the coach.  But as parents we played our part.

  • We stayed attentive to the whole game. In other words we did not start to chat amongst our selves with an attitude of not caring since the girls obviously had no chance of winning.
  • We cheered and supported the girls efforts.  No one yelled about all the possible plays the girls could have made.  No one moaned when the goalie let yet another goal in.
  • Our remarks were enthusiastic and encouraging.  We yelled for sure, when the girls ran with the ball, scooped it up, made an attempt at a shot.
  • We ignored commenting about the slaughter attempt.  If anything we used the slaughter attempt to instill energy and enthusiasm in the girls.

This is the important thing. Really the ONLY thing that matters to young athletes- Our girls came off the field feeling good.  The score was not the important part.  What was important was that they actually learned to play the game.  That they were out there trying their best.  That it was lots of fun and exciting to run up and down the field.

As a parent/coach/athlete I urge you to encourage and inspire your girls. And have fun while doing it.

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how movies are killing your teen daughters

February 17, 2010 at 6:29 am | Posted in 1 | Leave a comment
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Beware of what goes on in the movies your kids watch- Its their life that gets affected! http://bit.ly/dlX6Pz

“At a time in their development where children and adolescents are very susceptible to outside influences, we have to carefully examine the influence of all the factors that are combining to create what may

end up being lifelong habits around food and lifestyle choices.” Sutherland who was part of a team of advisers that, in 2006, helped to develop the Guiding Stars program used by supermarkets to help shoppers better identify the nutritional values of food products.
It’s these super simple subliminal- That means you don’t know they are happening- messages that get your teen girls.  Its really critical that you understand that the simplest little placement in a movie can hook your teen for life in a bad habit-  If you know about how this works and why- you are so less apt to get hooked.

In the article it states-

“Although the impact of this type of advertising on children is not fully known, it provides a likely avenue by which brand loyalty and product preference can be built.”

I’d have to say this is total crap-  These companies and advertisers know full well what they are doing-  They would never pay to have their product in strategic points of the movies if they did not fully expect the results they get.  And somehow the public thinks-“Well if there isn’t a study saying its happening it must be OK.”

Look-advertisers want your girls  to buy their product.  They really don’t care if its going to be unhealthy, ruin their self-esteem, or anything like that.  Most want your girls to get hooked on their product.  And they look to kids-  ESPECIALLY TEEN GIRLS – HEY WAKE UP CALL that’s YOUR DAUGHTER- to get them to be life long supporters of their products.

Why girls?  Lots of reasons-  Here’s a few- see if any resonate with you.

  1. Girls are more out there verbally
  2. Girls are leaders of trends
  3. Girls buy more than guys
  4. Girls are more effected by outside pressures
  5. Girls are more easily influenced
  6. Girls have more self-esteem issues

And here’s one you may not know about but its HUGE-

Girls become mothers- mothers make 99% of purchases for families.- That’s you moms- (So all this really pertains to you too)

With all this, can you understand why advertisers are desperate to get YOUR DAUGHTER to be hooked on their products?  If they get hooked now- they are set for life.

They care nothing for your daughter actually-  They only care to get their product sales higher now-and help with the future of the company if possible.

Now go back and look at that list again-

especially the top two-

These are powerful and strong-

Use these to your daughter’s personal advantage-

Let her know she is strong- she is a trend setter-she can let others know

what is better for them just by doing and being strong herself-(Oh Moms guess what-  You can do al this yourself- set and example, be your own strong and competent self.)

Have your daughter notice what is being shown in the movie-  really get it clear in her mind-

Cause then you have a real chance of 3-6 being about some other girls – not your daughter.

And you have the chance that your daughter can support her friends to be strong just like her. (And if you jump int this game she’ll really have strengtha and even respect for you.)

Let her know she doesn’t have to be a nerd to be able to resist bad choices- She has to be someone with amazing high self esteem-  She has to be able to be your own personal best!

Go to the  movies- have fun- and help your daughter stay true to herself.

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