Honor and Peace for Parents

April 20, 2009 at 11:46 am | Posted in 1 | Leave a comment
Tags: , , , , , , ,

GEM Parenting
Where Every Child is a GEM


It’s Motivational Monday.

And this week its about Honor and Peace.

I had some ideas about what I would motivate you on. (All kinds of earth day stuff. I know you will get plenty of that anyway.)

But then I got an email from one of my favorite clients this morning and had a call with my husband. My client has found her peace. And she was able to accept it. This is such a huge bridge that I just had to motivate you to find your peace this week. It makes such a difference when you have something that would have been upsetting, a struggle, or overwhelming. When you have your peace you are able to respond and react with a calm and yes peaceful response. It seems so basic, but if it were then you would already be peaceful. Your self-esteem and parenting would be going along in a manner that brought peace. You would be calm and collected.

Oh you aren’t. So this week go find some peace.

And when my husband called, he had some free time but I had you to write to, do lessons for my kids, email some contacts about a retreat I am setting up ( oh more juicy stuff about that later) and this afternoon I have three conferences, my yoga class and physical therapy, and my hour of being outdoors. Yes a very busy day.

But I answered the phone when my husband called. He wanted to talk. But I really just wanted to have a quick hello and get on with all that I have geared up for today.

He responded with a pouting sound. Then I explained to him that he has a choice- “You can feel rejected because I am not talking to you for a long time or you can feel honored that I am taking time to talk to you. It’s really your choice. But in my opinion you should (Yes I have to admit I used the word should) be honored I have stopped in the middle of what I am doing to have a chat with you.”

And happily he decided to be honored I talked to him.

So with looking for and finding some peace for yourself this week honor yourself and those around you. It’s a choice to find honor in most everything you do.

So that leaves the others to motivate you to find specific ways to celebrate earth day. And if you have something to share, by all means let us know.

But really I would rather you share about your peace and honor.
And the funny thing about this change is that it leads right into the new program I am offering. It is “UU Moms For a Balanced Life.”

Click the link or cut and paste to your browser to learn about and join this program.

Terrific Tuesday: Life Matters…A Mother’s Value

May 5, 2008 at 11:19 pm | Posted in 1, children, Families, Family Time, moms, Mothers, parents, relationships, teens, toddlers | Leave a comment
Tags: , , , , , , , ,
A Mother’s Value

By Mark D. Todhunter, M.A 




The day starts many different ways for mothers. Sometimes it is with a whimper and a cry, sometimes the sound of little feet moving around the house, or sometimes it’s that long drawn out familiar call of “Mommmm-meeeeeeeee.” But whatever may be your child’s attention getter of choice, it is the beginning of a new workday.

Unlike your childless counterparts that still have two hours to groom, primp, and adorn themselves, your time card is punched immediately and you get to squeeze those personal hygienic activities between glasses of juice, sagging diapers, and spilt Cheerios and milk. Once your charges have been properly nutritionalized with a breakfast fit for champions, and you have managed to run a brush through your hair a couple of times, you throw on your personal stylist hat. Rummaging through drawers and closets you seek out those perfect matching outfits, complete with socks and hats that will leave your children the talk of the playgroup.
But wait, there seems to be dissension among the ranks. Nobody wants to wear what you have picked out. Have they some how forgotten that you have a keen eye for fashion and have even attended seminars to be able to distinguish between a summer and an autumn? Remembering that you read somewhere along the way that giving your children choices was the key. Thinking quickly, you jump into your negotiator shoes and whip out an optional outfit for each of your children; you think the problem is solved. After ten minutes of further wrangling, you finally give in and settle on the Spiderman tshirt that has been worn for three days in a row for your son, and the pink tutu with the green princess shoes for your daughter.
Once the children have been proper stylized, you jump through the bathroom door and give your hair a 30 second tease and run your brush through it a couple more times. You then start herding kids to the door grabbing what ever necessities you can see or remember and lock the door behind you.
Playgroup brings out your more refined skills of police officer, judge, and jury. After a total of six disputes, four trips to time-out, and one physical assault, you have your chauffeur gloves back on, kids loaded, and headed for home.
Once in the house, your deli shop opens and you begin making lunches. Of course your customers are very particular and only will accept the perfect lunch. The tricky part is that last week it was a turkey sandwich with Miracle Whip with the turkey pulled off, and this week it is a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, but not cut.
Once the deli closes it is a chance for your first break when the kids go down for naps. Of course during your break you want to take advantage of the kid free time to do a couple of little things, i.e. pay a few bills, do the grocery list, throw in some laundry, pick up some toys and dust a bit, wash the breakfast and lunch dishes, make the bed, and fold the laundry that was in the dryer.
Just as you are headed for the couch to sit for the remainder of the kid’s naps, you here that very familiar call of the wild, “Mommmm-meeeeeeeee.”
With a smile and a deep sigh, you pick yourself up and move toward the rest of the day which includes adventures in the great backyard, running the family restaurant, washing the dishes, giving baths, reading stories, and of course, hugs and kisses as you lay them down for the night.
For all you mothers out there that make it happen every day so your kids get the best of you, I want to salute you. And I especially want to salute the mother that makes it happen for my children, thank you.
I also want to encourage you by letting you know that Salary.com has estimated that a fair wage for the typical stay-at-home mother would be about $150,579 a year. But the wage for being a Mommy….PRICELESS!
You can visit Mark Todhunter’s website at MarkTodhunter.com to email, or make comments and suggestions.
Mark Todhunter is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Professional Life Coach, Conference and Seminar speaker, and columnist and have worked with couples, families and children for the past 22 years

Create a free website or blog at WordPress.com.
Entries and comments feeds.