Do a Brain Dump to Get in the Zone and Win

April 30, 2011 at 5:49 am | Posted in Inspiration Quote Post, Self Esteem | Leave a comment
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When you are clearly aligned to what you want – and you will know this because you will be heading towards having the full-body excitement and anticipation for it, you won’t be having to ‘think’ about what you want, because you will be so in your moment and heading towards it. ~ Hemal Radia

This is a critical aspect of being an elite athlete.  And doing your own personal best. Whenever I talk with national and world champion athletes there is one common theme for all of them.  When in the competition- from skiing to soccer to figure skating- you name it it’s all the same- the athlete does not THINK when competing.  They are in the ZONE.

The other thing I have noticed is that ist harder for girls to let go of thinking.  I think girls are conditioned to think.  And boys are conditioned to not think.  SO as a girl or a parent of a girl, it’s imperative to get away from thinking- about everything that needs to be done just right to succeed.  Let your self, your daughter, be free to get aligned to what you  want.  Go for it from in the Zone- with love and passion.

This zone is being completely aligned with what they want- And that is to win by doing their own personal best.  These athletes don’t want to win because others have issues and failures.  They want to win because they are so in their zone nothing can stop or alter what they are doing.

With my athletes I tell them to be brain-dead.  Some of the girls laugh at this.  But we have a little ritual.  I cup my hands and they dump their brains in- OK not really- but they tip their head and pretend to dump their brains.  Then I toss this away.

When we do this it’s a symbol of getting in full alignment with what they want- To do their own personal best.  The girls notice the difference in how they feel and that makes them be able to do their own personal best.

By the time they get to the championships they don’t think, they BE the best- Their own personal best-  And they win!

Have you ever been in the zone?  How did you get there?  What was it like?  Can you choose to get in the zone?  Share your comments with others- It may be just the thing they need.

Mom uses positive intervention. Can you?

February 26, 2009 at 2:36 pm | Posted in 1 | Leave a comment
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Today I was out having breakfast with my friend and of course we had a small pack of kids with us. After we ate the kids went out side, but wince they did not have on their snow clothes we did ask them to play out of the snow. Tough order for NH kids!

We could see out the window and a mild tussle was happening between he older and younger kids. And sort of naturally the older kids were winning. One of the younger kids slipped on the ice. He came running in to his mom.

Now like all moms she had lots of options. She could have pooh-poohed the whole incident, tried to find out what REALLY happened, blame the other child, blamed her child.

Since we were just leaving the breakfast shop we got in our respective cars to meet a little later on. When we met an hour later here is what she did. NONE of the above.

She helped- that means she did not tell- her child to understand that there were other options than just running in to mom. And the real issue was that somehow his feelings or pride was hurt (as well as his head that he hit) and as he grows older to face these feelings, get away from the group for a moment and then get back involved would be a good way to handle these kinds of situations.

What a great mom. No blame, no justification, simply a new way to handle a tough situation.

Now as you go through your trials and tribulations as a parent try to leave out the blame, guilt, or be tough stuff. Guide with positive intervention.
When you use positive intervention you aare sure to raise your child with solid and natural high self-esteem

Wisdom Wednesday: What is Natural Self-Esteem?

June 4, 2008 at 2:08 am | Posted in attitudes, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Family Time, GEM Parenting Secrets | 1 Comment
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What is Natural Self-Esteem?

I am a busy mother filled with all the daily tasks that seem to overwhelm us and have more things in a day than can be done.  I could be constantly question myself about my parenting.  But instead, I have a rather calm, well-managed life that is so busy no one can keep up.  How in the world can I have life that is so contradictory?  Simple – my family and I have natural high self-esteem.  And you can have this too.

In the dark ages of my life- from BC, you know “before children” – to AD, that means “all done” having children- there was a time when I was a psychotherapist.  And I had a specialty-high self-esteem. 

When you have low self-esteem your entire life is affected.  Life just does not work out the way you want it to.  You are continually trying to improve your life.  You are never satisfied and you know that you are not measuring up to others.  You need constant reinforcement.  Life is a task to get through and others have it but you don’t.

The “it” others have is natural high self-esteem.  Now I am not saying that you personally have low self-esteem; I am saying that our media has made low self-esteem a rampant part of our culture. 

Rather than go on with my angst about low self-esteem I want to get to a solution.  I want to get away from developing low self-esteem in our children to allowing and encouraging them to live a life of fulfillment and confidence.

I have been teaching these fundamental principles of parenting with natural high self-esteem. I call these principles the 5 GEMs of parenting with natural high self-esteem. They are:

1.     Process vs. Product

2.     Respect vs. Assumed Authority

3.     Positive Intervention vs. Discipline

4.     Love of Right Now vs. Love of What Might Be

5.     Strong Morals and Values vs. Going with the Flow

All of these 5 GEMs are about communicating the value of your parenting in such a way that your children actually understand what natural high self-esteem is and how to keep it.

Parents who have joined the teleclasses and programs, listened to the podcasts, or have been private clients with GEM Parenting (that’s the company I have started) have had wonderful changes in their lives and their children’s lives.

Stress reduces for both you, the parent, and your child. Choices diminish.  Communication between you and your child improves.  Your child feels strong and confident.  Peer pressure has little power.  The media cannot induce your child to feel inadequate.  You and your child learn time management.  Manipulation comes to a halt. And “attitude” is stopped in its tracks.

Find out what natural high self-esteem is and how to infuse it into the lives of your children.

 
Grace E. Mauzy, M.A.
Founder of GEM Parenting
www.GEMParenting.com

Grace E. Mauzy, MA works with overwhelmed, stressed parents having difficulty comfortably cope with parenting. Parents learn positive intervention utilizing strategies and tactics to develop high self-esteem in children. Grace is the founder of GEM Parenting – an online community dedicated to parenting with passion, purpose, and integrity. (GEMParenting.com) Through Grace’s professional and personal life experiences, she has a unique ability to understand and empower parents to implement new parenting styles, allowing them to challenge themselves to break free of their destructive behaviors and attitudes.  And raise their children with confidence, peace, and harmony.  To learn more about her powerful speaking, coaching, and workshops, or to receive Grace’s motivating audio course “The 7 Deadly Mistakes Parents Make That Create Spoiled Brats – And How You Can Avoid Them!” visit http://www.7deadlymistakesparentsmake.com or visit http://www.GEMParenting.com.

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