Mom uses positive intervention. Can you?

February 26, 2009 at 2:36 pm | Posted in 1 | Leave a comment
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Today I was out having breakfast with my friend and of course we had a small pack of kids with us. After we ate the kids went out side, but wince they did not have on their snow clothes we did ask them to play out of the snow. Tough order for NH kids!

We could see out the window and a mild tussle was happening between he older and younger kids. And sort of naturally the older kids were winning. One of the younger kids slipped on the ice. He came running in to his mom.

Now like all moms she had lots of options. She could have pooh-poohed the whole incident, tried to find out what REALLY happened, blame the other child, blamed her child.

Since we were just leaving the breakfast shop we got in our respective cars to meet a little later on. When we met an hour later here is what she did. NONE of the above.

She helped- that means she did not tell- her child to understand that there were other options than just running in to mom. And the real issue was that somehow his feelings or pride was hurt (as well as his head that he hit) and as he grows older to face these feelings, get away from the group for a moment and then get back involved would be a good way to handle these kinds of situations.

What a great mom. No blame, no justification, simply a new way to handle a tough situation.

Now as you go through your trials and tribulations as a parent try to leave out the blame, guilt, or be tough stuff. Guide with positive intervention.
When you use positive intervention you aare sure to raise your child with solid and natural high self-esteem

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Can You Nurture Yourself?

November 17, 2008 at 7:44 am | Posted in children, dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | Leave a comment
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Good Morning,

It’s motivational Monday again, already. Can you believe it?  I hope you have had a great week.  I sure did. If you did hold onto the energy from it.

But if you are coming from a stressful, over loaded week, then right this minute,as you read this, shake off the stress.  Let that energy go away from you.

One really great way to do this is literally shake your arms and legs, your head.  While you’re at it get up and shake your whole self. I just did it. It feels great.  Now if you really did it great, if not do it now. Don’t worry about what they think.

But that’s not the real motivation. The real motivation for today is to nurture yourself.  I know you are simply too busy to think about or actually nurture yourself in much.  So now I want you to think of one thing you can do, doesn’t cost money, and doesn’t take more than 15 minutes, But you love to do it.  And it is simple to do.

Just to let you know:  Here are the things I do for self-nurturing:  Each morning I take from 30 minutes to an hour to do yoga, meditation, and Reiki. I have lunch w/ my kids, And each evening I have story time w/kids, it can be short.  But usually we spend an hour reading at night.

I also go outdoors everyday for at least 30 minutes. I walk, hike, ski, and whenever possible, I camp.  And swim in the summer.

I have just a couple more things I do to nurture myself-I eat healthy, have good friends, and enjoy whatever I am doing.I talk on the phone each day with my children who are not at home, and my mother, father, and sister. I read, sew and do crafts when time permits.

I basically live with passion, purpose, and integrity with everything I do.

Oh yes, I have all the regular stuff; bills, laundry, errands, groceries, cooking, cleaning, my least favorite-clutter control.  And I home school. And I have an Olympic training athlete. And I have four kids. And of course, I have you. 

I tell you this because I want you to know you can both find the time and take the time to give yourself 15 minutes of self-nurturing. 

It is not selfish, irresponsible, or lazy.  It is healthy, relaxing, and necessary.  It is soul reviving.  It is spiritual.  If you can’t do it for yourself,  then nurture yourself for your kids.  They deserve to have a parent who can let stress go. Who lives by their values. Your kids deserve to know you-At your best, everyday!

I motivate you to take 15 minutes to nurture yourself each day this week.  Please let me know what you plan to do.  Just hit comments at the top of this section, and put down your self-nurturing for this week.

And as I always say: Parent with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity,

Grace
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