Concentrate on the Small Wonders

November 12, 2008 at 7:43 am | Posted in dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | 2 Comments
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Good Morning. It is Wonderful Wednesday. That means you get to MAKE it full of wonder. Concentrate on the small wonders, appreciate them

 

These small wonders may be your children, or they may be your toes.  You know without your toes it is much harder to walk and balance? Of course it can be done.  You can get on without much.

 

Check this video out.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2I0DRk8dFjI

 

I had tears.

I had inspiration.

I am humbled.

 

Have a wonderful day and

Parent with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity,

 

Grace

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Sleeping Foot Disorder of Parenting

October 28, 2008 at 6:21 am | Posted in children, dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | Leave a comment
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This is a simple problem that you have. 

  • You know what it is like to have a foot asleep. 
  • First you realize it is a sleep.
  • Second you try very hard to barely move it.  Maybe you can avoid the pain.
  • Third you moved it just too much and you have shooting pins and needles, you feel like the pain is more than you can stand.
  • But move it you must.  Your subconscious brain forces this to happen or the poor blood flow can cause permanent damage. 
  • Then in a moment that seems like forever of pain, you are fine. 
  • Your foot works just the way it should. 
  • All the anxiety and pain are gone.
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This is the pattern that parents get into.  Only your subconscious brain isn’t quite so powerful.

You are a parent who is sleeping through your privileges and responsibilities as a parent.  You are just on the surface finding joy and wonder in parenting.

You are so scared to move.

When you do you are certain there will be shooting pains.

And you are right; growing pains are real, yet to grow you must move.

But with parenting you don’t have your subconscious brain forcing you to move.

And the tragedy here is you can raise your children while stuck in sleep.

The flow of energy can be severely diminished and your children will become adults.

But there will be long lasting, if not permanent, damage if you don’t shake yourself.

Yes, you have to actually get off your duff and move. 

 

You may have excruciating pain as you first move. 

The pain is the beginning of change, 

The change that opens the flow of energy.

 

But this new energy, just like with your foot, will be momentary.  It will dissipate.  It will diminish.  And you will be able to parent with real passion, purpose, and integrity.

You and your family will have the privilege to grow to have high self-esteem.  You will be more than simply satisfied with life.  You will cherish and flourish.  Your family will be that amazing family that everyone wonders how they can be so together.

 

I am sure you have heard of the Chinese noblewomen who had their feet bound in the past.  When they would have to have the bindings periodically replaced to put new ones on they cried in pain and begged to have the bindings replaced.  The flow of energy was too much for them to stand.  Yet, the binding made them incapable of standing.

 

Right now you are a bound parent.  You are living with your foot asleep.  And you not only ruin yourself by doing this, you take away from your children the most amazing gift there is.  You.

 

Wake up today.  Know there will be a pain.  Know that you and you family are worth getting past this pain.  If you don’t the best you can hope for is mediocrity in life, for you and your children.

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This week I am challenging you to wake up.  Do two things.  One is to tell your friends about GEMParenting.com.  You can easily do this by going to GEMParentng.com and clicking on the yellow box where it says “refer our site to a friend”

(If you have five friends sign up for the Pearl Membership I will host a teleclass just for you and your friends at no coat.)

The other is to get into action. Purchase a podcast while you are at GEMparenting. I mean really, they are just six dollars.  If you won’t do that then, you really just want to stay asleep. 

You must do something to get moving.  Your subconscious can’t do it.  You must do it with your will and your power.  Its called willpower.

Good Luck and parent with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity 

Grace

You Scream, They Scream, We all Scream for Not Ice Cream

October 14, 2008 at 12:37 pm | Posted in children, dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem, Terrific Tuesday | Leave a comment
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Hi its Terrific Tuesday.  Get a handle on how to get a bit of love back into your parenting.

Your problem is you know that you are supposed to love your children.  And now you have Grace pointing out that you may in your heart love them, but you know you are not loving them in action.  You are hating them, or mothering, or just plain life.  

Today take a five minute break from your hating.  Get a picture you love of your children.   One that only brings pleasure, peace, joy, and happiness to you.  It must be a strong feeling.  Just look at the picture for five minutes.  Feel the love.  Let it envelope you.  Try it on as a scarf around your neck, a shawl draping over your shoulders.  Let the love be yours for these five minutes.

When the time is up, go back to what you were doing.  And when you are hearing your children scream, when you are shouting back, block out what you are actually seeing.  Have a little hallucination of the picture you were looking at.  This will give you just a speck of time to regroup and try to talk with a bit of love in your feelings.

When you talk with love this does not mean giving in.  You can be very firm with love.  You can be understanding.  Yet you are the parent and can love your children to good behavior.  

When they are demanding, bratty, spoiled, unruly give them limits.  Speak over and over this phrase, “I understand that you don’t want to and that’s OK.”  Say it, say it, say it.  You can’t say it too much.  

Now go get your picture, lock yourself in the bathroom with it and feel the love for five minutes.  And for the rest of the day remember to say, “I understand that you don’t want to and that’s OK.”

How to Use Your Marbles on Saturdays and Build High Self-Esteem.

October 9, 2008 at 9:59 am | Posted in children, dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | 2 Comments
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OK it has been forever since I wrote here.  And now I am going to share what I received from a friend this morning.  If you live with motto you can only raise your children with high self esteem- and at the same time enjoy yourself and them.

 

3900 Marbles

The older I get, the more I enjoy Saturday mornings. Perhaps it’s the quiet solitude that comes with being the first to rise, or maybe it’s the unbounded joy of not having to be at work. Either way, the first few hours of a Saturday morning are most enjoyable. 

A few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the garage with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time, Let me tell you about it: 

I turned the dial up into the phone portion of the band on my ham radio in order to listen to a Saturday morning swap net. Along the way, I came across an older sounding chap, with a tremendous signal and a golden voice. You know the kind; he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business. He was telling whom-ever he was talking with something about “a thousand marbles.” I was in trigued and stopped to listen to what he had to say 

“Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you’re busy with your job. I’m sure they pay you well but it’s a shame you have to be away from home and your family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. It’s too bad you missed your daughter’s “dance recital” he continued. “Let me tell you something that has helped me keep my own priorities.” And that’s when he began to explain his theory of a “thousand marbles.” 

“You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years. 

“Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900, which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in t heir entire lifetime. Now, stick with me, Tom, I’m getting to the important part. 

It took me until I was fift y-five years old to think about all this in any detail”, he went on, “and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays.” “I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy. So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to round up 1000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside a large, clear plastic container right here in the shack next to my gear.” 

“Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and thrown it away. I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life. 

There is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight.”

“Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast. This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure that if I make it until next Saturday then I have been given a little extra time. And the one thing we can all use is a little more time.” 

“It was nice to meet you Tom, I hope you spend more time with your family, and I hope to meet you again here on the band. This is a 75 Year old Man, K9NZQ, clear and going QRT, good morning!” 

You could have heard a pin drop on the band when this fellow signed off. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to work on the antenna that morning, and then I was going to meet up with a few hams to work on the next club newsletter. 

Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss. “C’mon honey, I’m taking yo u and the kids to breakfast.” “What brought this on?” she asked with a smile. “Oh, nothing special, it’s just been a long time since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. And hey, can we stop at a toy store while we’re out? I need to buy some marbles. 

A friend sent this to me, so I sent it to you, my friend.

And so, as one smart bear once said…”If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.” – Winnie the Pooh. 

Pass this on to all of your FRIENDS, even if it means sending it to the person that sent it to you.And if you receive this e-mail many times from many different people, it only means that you have many FRIENDS. And if you get it but once, do not be discouraged for you will know that you have at least one good friend…

And that would be ME.

Now use your marbles to live and parent with passion, purpose and integrity.
Let others know how you use your marbles by putting in a comment.

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