Motivational Monday: My kid screwed up in school – What do I do about it?

May 12, 2008 at 12:49 pm | Posted in 1, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Family Time, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, How To, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, relationships, Self Esteem, siblings, spirituality, sports, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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Welcome to GEM Parenting.

We are in the middle of Teenager Month.

This week we are going to be talking about how my kid screwed up in school, and what to do about it.  This can be anything from some major issue-failing or getting extremely low grades in school to having been a student who really strived to learn and do well to one who is still getting by, and my even be doing “well” by others’ standards, but you know they are failing internally.

You know you need to do something and understand what is going on, but you are at a loss as to what to do and why in the world is this happening.

Lets talk this Wednesday evening at

GEM Parenting Secrets to get a grip on the situation.  There are many ways of understanding your child.  My motto is, hopefully you know, Every Child is a GEM.  It will be from this approach that I am going to help you see the issues and problems of your child.

And with that in mind we are going to look and see you your love, positive intervention, and the use of parenting with passion, purpose and integrity can and will help your child turn from despondency to one with high self esteem and freedom to be excellent where ever that occurs.  To join this class please use the link below.  And follow the instructions for registration in the yellow box on the top left.  Visit my website at: www.GEMParenting.com 

In this hour-long teleclass I will be discussing: How the six main dilemmas facing parents of teens are also the demons that demoralize teens and preteens – making them screw up in school.

  1. Peer Pressure
  2. Media Influence and pressure
  3. Friends changing
  4. Education tracks
  5. Drugs/Sex/Alcohol/Shoplifting
  6. How to set limitations, guidelines, and still create more freedom

 When your teen screws up in school there are three main responses,

  • Wanting to really let your kid know they have screwed up and making them look at all they have ruined for themselves.
  • Ignoring that anything really happened and assuring yourself as parent that there is no real problem with your teen- It is just others and what is happening around your teen.
  • Deciding to somehow let your teen know that every one screws up. It is what you do with the screw that matters.

If you are in the last category, then this Wednesday evening’s GEM Parenting Secrets is for you. As I said, we will be looking at the mistakes and problems your teen has made from different perspectives, looking at ways to use positive intervention to help your teen develop and mature away from self demoralizing and self demeaning behaviors and toward behaviors that will instill a wonderful sense of well being that is independent of all the demands on teens these days.

Hope you will be free to join us.

Terrific Tuesday 

Come back to gain some wisdom from our expert.  Here at GEM Parenting, we really like to share views and ideas from others. 

Wednesday Wisdom

We call this Wednesday Wisdom because this is the day you get the real GEM Parenting Wisdom.  In the morning you can come check out the article that I have written.  And in the evening you can come join us for Live With Grace- GEM Parenting Secrets.

As you can see we are going on from last week where we talked about Taming the Teenager.  And incidentally, this series is still going on, so to be sure to be part of both check out Thoughtful Thursday.

We are going to look at how the same pressures and influences can have devastating results in school.  The influences are

  1. Peer Pressure
  2. Media Influence and pressure
  3. Friends changing
  4. Education tracks
  5. Drugs/Sex/Alcohol/Shoplifting
  6. How to set limitations, guidelines, and still create more freedom

Again we are expecting a lively discussion – parents of teens can be quite expressive!  If your teen or preteen screwed up in school this is THE opportunity to have your personal questions answered and elaborated upon.  If you are a teen or preteen parent of a screw up you have got to join us.  If you don’t it is not our fault when things screw up AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN.  Find peace and stability for your family.  Join us.

This teleclass will be at 8:30pm eastern/5:30pm pacific.  I want to warn you, this will be filled with content, wisdom and inspiration.  We do have a nominal charge of $6.00 – it just helps us with overhead

 So you don’t need to worry about what to wear or worry about much.  A teleclass is simply a seminar done by phone and you can be on any phone from anywhere.

Thoughtful Thursday

Now if you simply can’t make the live teleseminar, we will have the podcast available for you on Thursday.  And if you are unsure of what a podcast is, it is a recording that you can down load to your computer or mp3 player.  This means you can listen to it at your leisure-while sweating away at the gym, taking a calm walk, driving wherever you go, or curled up in your jammies with a cup of relaxing tea.  And you do not actually have to listen to on Thursday.  This is the day we release it. 

 Feedback Friday

 You have got to come back because I almost always have a few more thoughts I didn’t get in or new thoughts that came to me after I was done, and of course this is the day I have answers to the question you have sent in.  Now is a really good time to send in your question about Your kid screwing up in school. 

And just to let you know, next week I am going to be talking about Prom Problems.  They are happening like wildfire all over right now.  So if you have concerns about your teen and Proms send in those questions as well.

There is no better way for me to help you than for you to send me your questions and concerns.  And that is my number one goal-help you be a happy, relaxed, reliable and responsible parent.  So please take a moment and send me your question.

And of course Saturday is

Creative Crayon Club

Here I am going to provide you with activities and ideas you can do with your teen.  These will not be how to talk about problems and issues, but how to DO things together, create things and play on a new level.  Your teen may have had problems in school so it is your duty to find ways to help your teen be a GEM in another light.  On Saturday we will be sharing things to help you find new facets in your teen GEM.

Enjoy your week!

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Thoughtful Thursday: 3 Steps to Skyrocketing Your Child’s Self-Esteem Without Saying a Word

April 10, 2008 at 12:09 am | Posted in 1, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Diet / Nutrition, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, How To, moms, Motivational Monday, parents, relationships, Self Esteem, siblings, spirituality, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment

 In case you have missed yesterday’s teleseminar, you can purchase a copy to listen at your leisure.

Special guest Rebbie Straubing, D.C.

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Learn how the power of love can deeply influence every atom of your children’s body.How the Yoga of Alignment – an ancient spiritual path- will bring peace and high self esteem to your children.

And best of all Rebbie will teach you so you can live with this strength rather than have to impart on your children.

For only $5.99 you listen to yesterday’s teleseminar and find out the best ways to gain spiritual alignment in your children and have a family filled with high self-esteem.

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Thoughtful Thursday: GEM Parenting Secrets Presents: STOP WHINING!

April 3, 2008 at 1:34 pm | Posted in 1, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, How To, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, relationships, Self Esteem, siblings, spirituality, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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What you missed in yesterday’s teleseminar… 

GEM PARENTING SECRETS PRESENTS: Stop Whining!

GEM Parenting SecretsStop Whining Children – Create High Self Esteem

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… but the Podcast is available now

Eradicate whining from Your Children’s Behavior, And create high self-esteem behavior in its place!

Every time you have to listen to your children whine one you cringe at the sound, want to scream and make them stop, but you feel trapped by this way your children talk then this is the teleseminar for you.

Learn why whining has become so prevalent. How it lowers your children’s self esteem and how you can actually stop the behavior. And at the same time increase your children’s natural high self-esteem.

For only $5.99 you can listen to this podcast and find out the best ways to stop whining in your children and have a family filled with high self-esteem. Includes G.E.M. Action Guide, Expert Article, and Grace’s Personal Article.

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Wednesday Wisdom: Stop Whining in Kids, Increase Their Self-Esteem

April 1, 2008 at 11:59 pm | Posted in 1, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, How To, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, relationships, Safety, Self Esteem, siblings, spirituality, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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Whining in kids has become an epidemic. Everywhere you go kids whine, and the worst part is parents can’t figure out what to do to stop this annoying behavior. Many parents think their kids will outgrow it, but you can see more and more young adults whining – having been raised with this behavior as the norm. Whining doesn’t automatically go away.

Not only does whining stay unless another behavior is taught to replace it, whining will decrease the whiner’s self esteem. So by letting your child continue to whine you create stress and tension for yourself and actually encourage your child to have low self-esteem.

How has whining become such a major part of our culture? It goes back to how the media is marketing to us and we are responding. We have so many role models in the public media who whine, both in their professional parts and in their private lives that we are beginning to think of whining as a natural and acceptable form of communication. But we all know, no matter what, we hate to hear whining from other people, especially our own kids.

What can you do as a parent to stop whining in your house, if there is so much rampant whining going on in all directions around you? I suggest a simple three-part process. First, you need to change your attitude and thoughts about whining. Second, you need to implement some behavior changes in yourself and your children. Third, you need to follow through with these changes for at least eight weeks.

Changing your attitude about whining can be truly simple. Each time you hear whining around you, don’t have a huffy breath response. Instead say to yourself, “That’s whining. I don’t like it. It is not acceptable in my house.” This is for ANY whining– TV, radio, magazines, books, friends, your children’s friends, you, your spouse, and of course your children. Some people like concrete evidence of their changes. To do this, make a two-column chart. On the left will be the time and place you allowed whining in your house. On the right will be the time and place you chose to not accept whining in your house. Obviously, you want the right side to become longer than the left. For two weeks just jot down what you think. This gives you the opportunity to really see where all the whining is.

After two weeks, you will begin to put actions behind your thoughts. Now that you are fully aware of where the whining is, and have begun to repeatedly say to yourself that you do not accept whining in your house, it is time to go public. You may think this will be pretty hard because, as you see, you have whining everywhere. But it can be simple. Each time whining occurs around you, say to the whiner – even objects – “I am making a change in our house. Since I know changes are hard we need to work together. Whining is not acceptable in our house. Let’s hit the rewind button. With the rewind button you can say what you want without whining.” This is a cut and dry version. Sometimes it is easiest to start with this exact wording. But if you can put humor and fun in it, both you and your family will enjoy the changes.

The third step is to follow through with these changes for eight weeks. It takes six weeks to form a new habit, so by going to eight the changes will no longer be a new habit. Whining will be gone from your house.

Enjoy your whine-free day!

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Transcedent Tuesday: Stop Whining Children – Create High Self-Esteem

March 31, 2008 at 11:03 pm | Posted in 1, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, How To, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, relationships, Safety, Self Esteem, siblings, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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GEM Parenting Presents Dr. Marilyn Heins

 
Dr. Heins is a Pediatrician, author, newspaper columnist, lecturer, wife, mother, step-mother, and grandmother.
Dr. Heins‘ advice balances the needs of the parent with the
needs of the child.
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 Why do young children whine?

What can parents do about it before the whining drives them crazy?

Young children whine to get attention and all kids whineWhining seems to be an “innate” behavior, sort of between crying and speaking. Kids come into this world with all the necessary equipment to cry and they are also programmed to learn language.  Every preschooler is entitled to a cranky day when he or she feels out of sorts and whines a lot. Such whining merely indicates that the child is having a bad day. However, chronic whining–the kind that drives a parent up the wall–is often unwittingly caused by the way parents react to the whining child.

THE BEST WAY TO STOP WHINING IS TO CHANGE RESPONSE BEHAVIOR IN THE PARENT.

Here are the Heins’ suggestions for dealing with chronic whining:

  • When your child whines, never give in to the child. Establish a firm rule: we do not give the child anything unless it is asked for in a non-whining tone of voice.
  • Be sure your child knows what you mean by whining and how it sounds. Role-play using a normal voice and a whining voice and ask the child to do the same.
  • Tell the child that whining hurts your ears. If the child can’t or won’t stop whining, the child will have to go the “whining place” (somewhere out of earshot) and stay there until the whining stops. Tell the child that it’s OK to whine as long as it’s done in the whining place where you don’t have to hear it.

The child can come out of the whining place as soon as the whining stops. The child controls the length of stay by controlling the behavior. (This is different from a time-out place where the child must stay until the timer goes off.) A whining place works for two reasons:

  1. The child does not get attention from the parents and 
  2. The parents do not have to listen to the obnoxious sound of a whining child.  

  • Try to prevent whining by keeping the child from getting overly tired or hungry.
  • Try to eliminate the child’s need to whine by really listening when the child properly asks for your attention.

Remember focused attention is a parent’s undivided attention to the child. And every child needs some of this focused attention every day. Often the “whining-est” households are the ones where parents use the phrases, “In a minute!” or “Not now, I’m busy!” many times a day. These are legitimate phrases to use on occasion, but don’t overdo it with a three year old. To a three year old, a minute is a long time.

I am personally convinced that whining is much less common among children whose parents provide brief, but intense and readily responsive, attention when the child needs it. This seems to “immunize” the child so that he or she is better able to resist the whining virus.

Dr. Heins

www.ParentKidsRight.com

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You can download this article by clicking on the link below

http://www.gemparenting.com/teleseminars/2008/040208-stop-whining-expert-heins-marilyn.pdf 

Enjoy your day!

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Motivational Monday: Whining Children

March 30, 2008 at 11:20 pm | Posted in 1, children, Creative Crayon Club, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, How To, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, relationships, Self Esteem, siblings, spirituality, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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Hi and Welcome to GEM Parenting! 

If you have been a follower of our programs, you may have wondered where we were. Well, I have been doing what I do best.  I have been parenting my children through their winter activities.  You see my, children are high-level ski racers.  This means in the winter I am extremely busy with them.  Now we are winding down from that high level of activity and I can refocus on your family self-esteem needs, which is the other thing I do best.  I have to say I have really missed you over the past month.   

This week we will be talking about whining children.  I see whining children as an epidemic.  Everywhere you go children use this high-pitched tone to try and get what they want.  It is incredibly annoying as a parent to hear, and the behavior actually lowers your child’s self-esteem.  So with whining you have a double negative.  The simplest way to start to rid whining from your house is to have your child repeat what they want to say with a new tone.

Stop Whining Children – Create High Self Esteem

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Join us for this week to learn why whining reduces your child’s self-esteem and how to eradicate whining from your child’s behavior.

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Transcendent Tuesday:  Tomorrow we will have an exciting article.  You don’t want to miss it!

Wisdom Wednesday:  You will get an article directly from me with my personal twist of how to get rid of whining from your children and actually create a home with natural high self-esteem.

You can join GEM Parenting Secrets on Wednesday, at 4:00 p.m. EST, for the teleseminar Eradicate Whining from Your Children’s Behavior, and Create High Self-Esteem Behavior in its PlaceClick here for sign up and info.

For only $5.99 you can join this teleseminar and find out the best ways to stop whining in your children and have a family filled with high self-esteem.

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Thoughtful Thursday:  This is the day the podcast , Eradicate whining from Your Children’s Behavior, and Create High Self-Esteem Behavior in its Place, will be released to the public.  The podcast will not be available till Thursday.                                             

Focused Friday:  Send in your questions about whining children today so that we can give you feedback by Friday.  Email your questions to me at Grace@gemparenting.com.

Creative Crayon ClubCome join us for some activities and new products to help reduce whining in your children. Remember to sign up today for GEM Parenting Secrets. 

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Have a wonderful week!

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Transcendent Tuesday: Family Safety

January 29, 2008 at 12:38 am | Posted in children, dads, Divorce, Families, GEM Parenting Secrets, moms, Mothers, parents, Safety, Self Esteem, siblings, teens, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens | 1 Comment
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Is Hiding Our Heads in the Sand Really Working For Us?

By Kelly Rudolph
“Your Personal Safety Trainer™”

Many of us refuse to learn about safety out of fear, opting instead to hide our heads in the sand in denial. It is true that all of us are vulnerable to unscrupulous people just waiting to exploit our weaknesses. Attackers may be 4-year-old bullies in preschool, verbally abusive teens, co-workers or neighbors. They may be purse-snatchers, car jackers, rapists or murderers. When we take our heads out of the sand long enough to realize that they all have one thing in common that is easy to spot, we’ll all be safer…forever!

The attacker mindset is the same no matter who is attacking. In fact, we’ve all been attackers ourselves when we called someone a name or made a joke at someone’s expense. Gossiping and road rage are attacking as well. We tend to think of attacks as physical, don’t we? But domestic violence is always preceded by verbal abuse: name calling, demeaning comments, etc. This breaks down the intended victim’s confidence and self-esteem until they believe, in many cases, they deserve the physical abuse. Attacking can be physical, verbal, mental or emotional.

Understanding the attacker mindset often allows us to see an attack coming a mile away and at the very least avoid taking it personally. Did I say, “Avoid taking it personally?” It is a fact that attacks are not personal even if the attacker knows the victim. The reason someone attacks is simple. They are insecure, have low self-esteem, feel out of control of their own life and choose to control someone else in order to feel powerful again. It’s that simple. The pay-off is feeling powerful and it’s all about the attacker getting that reward. If the attacker chooses to attack someone he or she knows it might be because it’s easier if they already know which buttons to push. Remember attacks are all about the attacker, not about the victim. The victim is just a means to an end. This knowledge is vital to the healing process of survivors.

So hiding our heads in the sand prolongs our vulnerability and prevents us from gaining the necessary confidence that scares off cowardly attackers in the first place. Take control of your personal space, safety and life by holding your head up instead of burying it. 

Kelly Rudolph has taught thousands of men, women and children how to prevent themselves from becoming victims and how to defend themselves when necessary. www.SurviveSD.com

Enjoy our Free Motivational Monday Podcast on Family Safety!

Also, GEM Parenting Secrets will be at 4:00 pm est.  This is a live session where we will discuss strategies to create safety and comfort for your family, how to implement the startegies, and how using the strategies will raise your family’s self-esteem.  Sign up at GEMParenitng.com with our special guest Kelly Rudolph of Survival Self Defense!    Each person that enrolls will receive a Free Personal Safety Secrets Action Guide to help implement your families safety action plan!

Just think…for less than a trip to McDonalds (only $7.99), you can make your family safer!

How To Keep your Kids Safe on the Internet

January 15, 2008 at 12:06 pm | Posted in children, dads, Families, How To, moms, Mothers, parents, teens, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens | 2 Comments
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Welcome to Transcendent Tuesday! 

As the parental concern grows over how to keep children safe on the internet, I would like to share an article that I recently read called “A Parent’s Guide to Internet Safety” created and distributed by the FBI in coordination with the Center for Missing and Exploited Children

This incredible artilce defines all of the terms used online today, gives parents great tips on protecting their children online, and even tells parents about behaviors to look for offline that indicate online connections.  You can surf over to the article at “A Parent’s Guide to Internet Safety” or download the The Parents Guide to Internet Safety!

Join us this week for this discussion on how to keep your children safe on the internet

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Transcendent Tuesday: Preschoolers and Play

January 8, 2008 at 10:27 am | Posted in children, dads, Families, How To, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem, siblings, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday | Leave a comment
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Children learn by playing. Whether it be blocks, puzzles, or the creation of an imaginary world. Fun and games teach. Child development experts have targeted six specific areas that benefit from play. They are—

•Language development
•Small muscle development
•Large muscle development
•Emotional development
•Social development
•Mathematical thinking

As your child’s first teacher, it is important you understand what he is learning when he plays. To do this observe him. Try to determine what skill he is practicing. Then take it a step farther by creating other opportunities for him to apply what he is learning.

Activities That Help Your Preschooler Learn

Each of the above categories develop through a variety of activities. Some overlap and some are very specific. Once you identify what skill your child is practicing you can determine what he is learning and how to help him apply his knowledge. You can start by using these common instances of learning through play to encourage growth and development in your preschooler.

Language Development—Helping children develop a good sense of language helps them better express themselves and their needs.

Activities
•Even though your preschooler may not read, label some different color baskets for him to put his things in. For instance, you can label one toys and one shoes. Then show him the labels. This will help him identify words as symbols for though. This also allows him to use his mathematical thinking skills to sort.
•Ask him to help you build a home for one of his stuffed animals. By putting his thoughts into words he is learning how to express himself, which is one of the cornerstones of communication.
•Sing simple repetitive songs and nursery rhymes. Then add movement to the music. This requires that he listen, which is also an important component to language development. 

Small Muscle Development—The small muscle group includes the hands, fingers, wrists, and eyes. Your Preschooler uses his small muscles to do things like tie his shoes and brush his teeth on his own.

Activities
•Playing with puzzles is a great way for your preschooler to develop his small muscle group. Places puzzle pieces helps develop hand-eye coordination. Plus, when your child is successful, he will experience a sense of pride and accomplishment, which is always a good thing.
•Playing dress up is a great way to develop small muscles. At first, buttons and zippers can be challenging. Try using dressing songs and rhymes you and he make up to keep the game fun.
•Rolling a ball back and forth between the two of you helps develop the small muscles in his hands, in addition to hand-eye coordination.

Large Muscle Development—The large muscle group includes those in the neck, trunk, legs, and arms. These are the muscles most used in physical play.

Activities
•We can all use a little help around the house. Let your preschooler sweep for you. This type of movement develops the large muscles in his arms and upper body.
•Imitating mommy and/or daddy going to work by riding his tricycle to a pretend destination works the muscles in his legs.
•Playing a good old fashioned game of leap frog is a fantastic way to develop muscles in his arms, legs, and trunk.

Emotional Development—Parents and family are most influential during his phase in your preschooler’s growth. He experiences emotions deeply and is beginning to learn how to process them and express himself.

Activities
Preschoolers commonly develop fears. Using imaginary play is a good way to offset these fears. Have your child pretend he is a monster or a super hero who is capable of capturing the scary part of darkness.
•Encourage him to use art to express his feelings. By drawing pictures and having him tell you the story behind it, you are giving him an outlet to share feelings he may have otherwise kept bottled up.
•Help him identify emotions through storytelling. When you tell him a story or read a book, ask him what the characters are feeling. Are they happy, sad, excited, or scared.
 
Social Development—As the name implies, social development is the basis of your preschooler’s relationships. These are the skills he needs to make and be a friend.

Activities
•Playing any sort of age appropriate board game with your preschooler will help him learn how to share, which helps him develop friendships.
•Work on his cooperation and negotiation skills by asking him to help you decide what game to play.
•Encourage him to tell you a story about his family and friends. This will help him learn about relationships and identify how he belongs in his world.

Mathematical Thinking—Sorting is one of the ways your child learns to identify groups and categories. Therefore, when he sorts blocks by color, he is learning to think mathematically.

Activities
•Let him help you sort the laundry. Have him put socks in one pile and pants in another.
•Give him four spoons and four forks. Ask him to put the like ones together.
•On grocery day, let him help you in the kitchen. Have him put the vegetables in one pile and the fruits in another. It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t get this task exactly right.

This also gives an opportunity to practice his language and naming skills.

Caron Goode’s (EdD) insights are drawn from her fifteen years in private psychotherapy practice and thirty years of experience in the fields of education, personal empowerment, and health and wellness. She is the the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents,(www.acpi.biz) a training program for parents & professionals who wish to mentor other parents. A mom and step-mom, she and her husband live in Ft. Worth, Texas. Reach her at caron30@gmail.com.   Visit the ACPI blog today!

Transcendent Tuesday: Christmas for Children of Divorce

December 11, 2007 at 1:15 pm | Posted in children, dads, Divorce, Families, Holidays, marriage, moms, Mothers, parents, relationships, Self Esteem, siblings, toddlers, Transcendent Tuesday, Tweens | Leave a comment
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As you may have guessed, GEM Parenting is dealing with the topic divorce this week.  It is so important that families have that special time at Christmas.  For many parents and children, this is one of the few times they get to spend together interacting with close family, building memories that will last a lifetime, and growing traditions passed from one generation to the next. 

For children of divorce as well as divorced parents, this is often the most stressful and painful part of the year.  It does not have to be though…and GEM Parenting is here to help you make it through the Christmas season with strong happy children and families.

As our feature article this week, GEM Parenting welcomes back the insightful wisdom of Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen with her newest article “Christmas and Divorce For Kids:  Practical Ways to Enjoy a Divorced Family Christmas.”  In this incredible article, Laurie outlines the way you can address Christmas Traditions for Divorced Children as:

  • Ask your kids what Christmas traditions they want to keep. They may be attached to old family rituals – or the traditions may be too painful for your kids.
  • Consider creating new Christmas family traditions. Listen to your kids; they may know how to make a divorced family Christmas joyful and harmonious.
  • Consider spending Christmas somewhere else. If you have always spent it at your parents’ place but think it may be too painful this year, consider going to a close friends’ for Christmas. Diverting attention away from the divorced family Christmas idea may ease children’s anxieties.
  • Find inexpensive ways to enjoy the holidays. Money could be tight after a divorce. Enjoy simple pleasures, such as hot chocolate after a snowball fight or watching classic Christmas movies together. Don’t make up for your feelings of guilt or sadness with expensive gifts. Christmas and divorce for kids isn’t about buying lots of stuff.

Don’t miss the rest of Laurie’s article “Christmas and Divorce for Kids:  Practical Ways to Enjoy a Divorced Family Christmas” with practical ways to build new family traditions for children of divorce and a guide to buying Christmas gifts for divorced children!

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