Whoopy Pies

April 26, 2011 at 8:27 pm | Posted in Fun Activities | Leave a comment
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Its really important to have FUN-

Being an athlete means loving life!  It means taking time to be with friends- Sometimes friends who have nothing to do with your sport.  Just being a kid and being silly.

What better way than with home made whoopee pies?

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Motivational Monday: The Joy of Parenting

June 10, 2008 at 8:32 am | Posted in attitudes, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, peer pressure, relationships, Self Esteem, Thoughtful Thursday, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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The first thing I want to give you is a great big Welcome to GEM Parenting.  Have you come to GEM Parenting with anxiety about your children, worries about how to discipline them, and with a heart ache because you really thought being a parent would have some joy in it? 

One of the most over looked and least understood areas of parenting is the joy.  When you find joy in parenting your anxieties and worries seem to drift away.  You are aware of how and what to do. 

Parents that I have led to their own joy of parenting have been able to introduce positive intervention, live with high self-esteem, and be free of social and media pressures to conform to.

This week is your opportunity to bring joy to your parenting.  For today I want you to pay particular attention to one single aspect of your child that you cherish.  Disregard everything else.  Do it for one whole day.  At the end of the day come back and share what happened.

EnJoy your parenting.

Here’s what’s happening this week.

Terrific Tuesday:

I will be sharing a personal experience of finding joy in my parenting.  You know I think it is great to be all learned and experienced, but if I can’t share what and how I do things you just can’t really get what I’m talking about.  So I hope you will come back and see some joy.

Wisdom Wednesday:

Wednesday, I will put on the hat of the expert. I will explain the joy of parenting from the standpoint of the problem and the solution.

Thoughtful Thursday:

 On Thursday, I am going to share with you a case study of a client I have worked with.  Not in a scientific research way, but I hope in a way that is enlightening and enjoyable to read.

Follow up Friday:

On Fridays, I have a free radio show and it is completely your questions and my answers.  There is no sermon, no didactic -That means teacher talks student listen – teaching.  Only your questions that I answer on the spot.

There are a couple of things that do happen as well, I do have surprises for the listeners.  And especially for the first call in of the day. 

If you want to be sure that your question is answered then mail it to me, Grace@GEMParenitng.com.  The first question I receive each week will get a ticket to join a live teleclass.

Also, if you are unable to attend the live show, there is a recording.  So you can still send in your question.

Saturday is Creative Crayon Club:

And of course you will be getting ideas of how to bring joy to your house and your parenting. 

It’s a busy week for you, I know.  You are a parent with worries, concerns and fears.  So, come back each day to gain a bit more peace and guidance to being one amazing parent filled with joy of parenting.

 

Creative Crayon Club: Family Activities for Natural Self-Esteem

June 6, 2008 at 9:55 pm | Posted in 1, attitudes, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Family Time, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, How To, Mothers, parents, responsibilities, Self Esteem | 1 Comment
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Creative Crayon Club is one of my favorite times of the week.

At my house we use our Creative Crayon Club as a special time to be together.  We can have friends over, or be just ourselves. We have a special two-hour time that we devote to this family time.  And giving it a name means I can put it on my calendar.

We are back to younger children. (You can adapt these for teens or look to May CCC entries for teen activities.)

 

Castle Sock Puppets

What you need:

  • Old Socks
  • Permanent markers
  • Yarn
  • Bits of cloth
  • Googly eyes
  • Tin foil
  • Fabric quick glue
  • Scissors
  • Stapler

*  You must have at least the socks and markers.  The rest are suggestions that can be added on.

What you do:

You take the sock and use the toe section for the head.

Draw, glue and staple to make the head.  (Using a stapler means the puppet will be usable as you make it.)

Make two slits in the side of the sock for fingers to stick out.  These will be the arms.

That is it!

 

 Ants on a Log

What you need:

  • Celery
  • Peanut butter
  • Black raisins

Have your child spread peanut butter on the celery.  Put raisins on the peanut butter.

That’s how you get to eat Ants on a Log!

   

Castle Puppet Show

What you need:

  • Cereal boxes
  • Markers, crayons
  • Tape
  • Cleared off table or other place to set up puppet show

First you need to make a bit of scenery.  You can use old cereal boxes, or just “borrow” the ones that have cereal in them right now. 

Cover the boxes with paper.

Color the paper to look the way you want the castle to look.

Place these as sides for the puppet stage.  You may want to tape them down.

If you use a table, put a long draping thing- either a tablecloth or a towel in front to keep the “backstage” hidden.  Tape this in place as well.

What you do:

Each person has a time limit of one to two minutes to act out the puppet show.  This includes all children and all adults.

This is a fun interactive way to get you involved with the creative parts of your children’s lives.  When you involve yourself in their lives at their level this will teach them that you value them for who they are at this moment.

What is your favorite thing to do with your child?  Tell us in the comment area.

Most of all, enjoy the time you spend with your children!

 

Grace E. Mauzy, MA works with overwhelmed, stressed parents having difficulty comfortably cope with parenting. Parents learn positive intervention utilizing strategies and tactics to develop high self-esteem in children. Grace is the founder of GEM Parenting – an online community dedicated to parenting with passion, purpose, and integrity. (GEMParenting.com) Through Grace’s professional and personal life experiences, she has a unique ability to understand and empower parents to implement new parenting styles, allowing them to challenge themselves to break free of their destructive behaviors and attitudes.  And raise their children with confidence, peace, and harmony.  To learn more about her powerful speaking, coaching, and workshops, or to receive Grace’s motivating audio course “The 7 Deadly Mistakes Parents Make That Create Spoiled Brats – And How You Can Avoid Them!” visit http://www.7deadlymistakesparentsmake.com or visit http://www.GEMParenting.com.

Follow-up Friday: Natural Self-Esteem Questions and Answers Series Today!

June 6, 2008 at 9:06 am | Posted in attitudes, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Family Time, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, moms, Mothers, peer pressure, relationships, respect, responsibilities, Self Esteem, Thoughtful Thursday | 1 Comment
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1) I was brought up in a house with little self esteem by my parents.  Everything I did was not done right, with enough effort, or I just didn’t have the knack that others had.  Now I have two boys.  I think they are terrific.  I hardly ever want to tell them that they can do better for fear that they will end up like me. But I think I am swinging the pendulum in the exact opposite direction of my mother.  I read how there is a difference between egocentric and high self-esteem.  How can I know the difference?

2)         My children are constantly bickering.  It seems they cannot spend more than two minutes together without starting out at each other.  Then I get involved. We just go round and round in the same circle with no real end in sight.  And what bothers me is that I spend all my time telling them how awful they are.  I never seem to get around to letting them know that I even like them.  How can I get past this?

3) I have three kids.  All of them are exceptional.  They are good and better than most at just about everything they do.  I think they have really strong self-esteem but I want to be sure it stays that way and they don’t’ end up with some false sense of self esteem and just a bloated sense of themselves.  Any ideas?

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Thoughtful Thursday: Positive Intervention

June 5, 2008 at 11:00 pm | Posted in attitudes, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Family Time, Focused Fridays, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, peer pressure, relationships, respect, responsibilities, Self Esteem, siblings, teenagers, Thoughtful Thursday, Tweens | 1 Comment
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I used Positive Intervention to stop over exuberance at a birthday party

Last weekend I had my youngest child’s birthday party.  We had twelve children including my two youngest. 

At one point we were playing Castle- the kids had played musical dress ups, and from there we evolved into castle with my daughter being the queen.  There were two knights having a jousting competition.  One child to began to take the jousting just a bit too far.  Rather than stand back watch and hope things would end up OK.  Or stop everything and single out the over jouster by telling him in front of everyone to calm down, I intervened.  I announced a short break for the jousters to everyone.  I took the overly exuberant knight by the hand away from everyone else.  I had him sit upstairs with me for five minutes to calm down.  When we came back down, I resumed the activity with simply saying we were done taking the five-minute break.

This is a perfect example of positive intervention.  No one was disciplined; no one was punished or made to feel bad in any way.  I simply intervened.  When you use positive intervention as one of your main principles of parenting you have only one course to go.  That is to create, instill, and maintain high self-esteem in your children.

What have you done lately that was positive intervention?  Why not share with others, and if you do I will personally respond back.

  

Motivational Monday: What is Natural Self-Esteem? A Short Overview

June 4, 2008 at 1:53 am | Posted in 1, attitudes, children, Creative Crayon Club, Families, Family Time, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, How To, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, peer pressure, relationships, respect, responsibilities, Safety, Self Esteem, teenagers, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, toddlers, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | 2 Comments
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Welcome to GEM Parenting.

We just finished Teenager Month.

But don’t worry, if you missed the month just go to http://www.GEMParenting.com to find everything you missed.

Thanks to those of you who answered the survey.  I learned some practical and useful things from you.  And will be implementing your ideas in the near future. “What is Positive Intervention and how to implement it?” and ” What is real time out and how does it work” are the two teleclasses you want the most. The least desired was “Outdoor fun and safety.”  This is too bad for me because I love this topic.  Instead we will have “Fool Proof Net Safety” 

I will be sending information with the subject line: Parents of Teens – So only open if you are one – about a teleclass especially for you.  (You have to be a Pearl Member to get the discount. To join this complimentary membership click on Pearl Membership on our website at http://www.GEMParenting.com).  

But what I learned more than anything was that very few people actually understand what GEM Parenting is REALLY about. 

Although we do give good sound advice about parenting, asking in experts for GEM Parenting Secrets, giving you referrals to books and programs we think are valuable, having teleclasses and podcasts, our real secret is that everything we do is to help you understand how to raise your children with natural high self esteem. 

Surprisingly to me, many people don’t understand what the real value of doing everything you can to ensure your child has natural high self-esteem. 

Everything from your child’s attitude, morals and values, health, ability to succeed, desire to achieve, even life span, are directly effected by self-esteem.

I will be discussing the issues connected with natural high self-esteem through this newsletter over the next few weeks in lieu of GEM Parenting Secrets Teleclasses.

Does your child have low self-esteem?  Do you know the difference between raising high self-esteem and boosting ego?  Do you have any idea how to energize your child’s self-esteem?  Do you know how to use positive intervention and eliminate negative discipline?  Do you know that raising your child with high self-esteem will ease your life as well?  Your stress and anxieties will vanish as your child’s self-esteem soars.  Your child will be able to participate and engage in life on a level that is void of self-doubt and insecurities-for life.

The first tip you need to know is that the process is the most important aspect of your child’s life.  It is not the product that s/he produces.  The product is irrelevant if the process is not your child’s. 

Think back to your own childhood.  Everything you did was not about the product.  When you were a kid you wanted to get muddy, make something, eat your ice cream just the way you wanted (and maybe that meant getting it all over your face and down your front.) 

You may have been allowed to grow up this way, but my guess is that your parents were more concerned about the product-how neat you were, how accomplished you were, what grades you got- rather than the process of getting to being neat, getting to being accomplished, being educated regardless of good grades.  And if you did not live up to the desired product level, you were made to feel bad in one way or another.

And this is why parenting for you is such a struggle.

You would not have come to GEM Parenting (or any other site) if you were not struggling with parenting.  And I believe the bottom line of raising children is to ensure you create, instill, and maintain high self-esteem in your children.

Does your parenting style ensure you are raising your child with high self-esteem?  Please share its time we had some lively responses.  With over three thousand visitors someone has got to have something to say!

Tickle me Tuesday

One thing people have asked me to do is write a bit about some personal incidences-both about me, and people I have worked with.  So, I will venture out here.  Check out last Saturday’s post for the first one.

We will also have a book we recommend.  Only need to go to GEM Parenting to find out what it is.

Wednesday Wisdom

This Wednesday you are going to get the first installation of the real heart and soul of GEM Parenting.  An article you can get some real value from.

Thoughtful Thursday

Another slice of what it is like to be mom with high self-esteem raising kids with high self-esteem.

Follow Up Friday

 This is when you get to ask your questions.  And I am put on the spot to come up with answers to help you.  Of course some people sort of cheat and send their questions in ahead of time- I honor the first to come in by answering it first.

And how, when, and where does this happen?

How– It’s simple-blog talk radio.

You can listen, call in your question, or type into the chat session.

When– Friday at 9:30

Wherehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/gemparenting

And of course Saturday is

Creative Crayon Club

My favorite day of the week!  I will give you fun, simple, and inexpensive activities to do with your children.  You know, good old fashioned family fun.

Enjoy your week!

 

Creative Crayon Club: Activities to do with your Teen

May 31, 2008 at 8:49 am | Posted in attitudes, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Family Time, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, How To, lying, moms, Mothers, parents, peer pressure, relationships, respect, responsibilities, Self Esteem, spirituality, sports, teenagers, teens, Tweens | 2 Comments
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This is out last Creative Crayon Club dedicated to parenting teenagers for a while. It has been a great deal of fun to put these together for you.  I would really love it if you would comment about your favorite thing to do with your teen.

Here are a few things for you to do that can help reduce lying in your house.

Household Projects

Give your teen a choice of household projects that you two will complete.  Pick one, create a time line for the project, and get to work.  Teens thrive on simple projects that give them the respect and responsibility of an adult.  When you do the project together you can have conversations that impart your values and morals without actually having to set up the conversations. 

Join a Club or Group Together

This can be anything from fly fishing, scuba diving, walking club, art group.  There are millions of things to do.  Find something that both of you want to try, but haven’t.  This put you on an even keel.  You are joining the group as two adults.

Find a Needy Group You Can Volunteer For

You can make a meal once a month for a shelter, find books to give to an under privileged school, better yet read once a month to some group.  Again, the list is endless.  Find some way to be the givers on an equal basis.

There is a thread to all these ideas.  Be active with your teen.  Don’t try to be their friend.  Find things that allow you to be together, without being peers.  As you treat your teen with respect, your teen will have respect for you.  And your teen will see that you are someone whose opinion they value.  When they feel valued they will be less able to lie to you.  It is also important to be sure that you remain the parent- the adult.  When you do these things the bottom line is that you give your teen the opportunity to develop into an adult with self respect and high self esteem.  

What is your favorite thing to do with your teen?  Tell us in the comment area.

Motivational Monday: Teens and Lying

May 26, 2008 at 8:04 am | Posted in attitudes, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Family Time, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, How To, marriage, moms, Mothers, Motivational Monday, parents, peer pressure, relationships, Safety, Self Esteem, siblings, teens, Thoughtful Thursday, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | Leave a comment
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Welcome to GEM Parenting

We are finishing Teenager Month.  But don’t worry, if you missed the rest of the month just go to http://www.GEMParenting.com to find everything you missed.

Today we begin to talk about teens and lying.  These two, unfortunately often go hand in hand.  You are not the only one who has a teen that lies, but you don’t have to be a parent of teen who lies.  You can free both yourself and your teen from the need to lie.  This does not mean your teen will be perfect.  It means your teen will respect you and him/herself enough to be honest and mature about actions.  Rather than wondering and hoping your teen will not lie why not join us for our discussions on how to give your teen the real freedom and maturity to be honest.

When you give this respect to your teen just watch their self esteem soar.  It is amazing and wonderful to watch.  And believe it or not what your teen was doing that they lied about will begin to fade out of the picture.

My motivation to you today is:  Respect yourself and be honest with your teen.  See what happens.  Add a comment on the forum discussion.

Terrific Tuesday 

Today, we will have an article from a leading expert on Teens & Lying.  Our expert will share facts and thoughts on how we, as parents, can eliminate teen lying while respecting our teen’s creativity.  Be sure to check back tomorrow, you will be glad you did.

Wednesday Wisdom

On Wednesday we will have plenty for you to do.  In the morning, come check out my article on teens and lying.  It will give you some good sound answers.  Add to that GEM Parenting Secrets in the evening when I will be interviewing a special guest.  And add to that the last week of Taming the Teenager podcast is available.  You can only end up with a bit of wisdom from all this.

Learn how to stop teen lying and even why it occurs by joining us in a teleclass this Wednesday at 8:30pm EDT, 7:30 CDT, 5:30 PDT.  And you can be anywhere with a phone, so you don’t need to worry about what to wear or worry about much.  A teleclass is simply a seminar done by phone.

Thoughtful Thursday

Now if you simply can’t make the live teleclass, we will have the podcast available for you on Thursday.  And if you are unsure of what a podcast is, it is a recording that you can down load to your computer or mp3 player.  This means you can listen to it at your leisure-while sweating away at the gym, taking a calm walk, driving wherever you go, or curled up in your jammies with a cup of relaxing tea.  And you do not actually have to listen to on Thursday.  This is the day we release it. 

So if you are attending Mark Todhunter’s Tame Your Teenager Series then this is the perfect option for you.  Stay with Mark on Wednesday, and get the podcast Thursday to learn how to stop teen lying.

Follow Up Friday

This is when you get to ask your questions.  And I am put on the spot to come up with answers to help you.  Of course some people sort of cheat and send their questions in ahead of time- I honor the first to come in by answering it first.  And how, when, and where does this happen?

How- It’s simple-blog talk radio.  You can listen, call in your question, or type into the chat session.

When- Friday at 12:30

Where- http://www.blogtalkradio.com/gemparenting

And of course Saturday is…

 Creative Crayon Club           

This is still my favorite day of the week.  One last shot at helping you get new ideas of how to turn a recalcitrant teenager into a teen with ambition, honest values, and high morals.  Yet is still a kid at heart, has problems, has a wavering -by the minute- self esteem.

If you have teen problems then we are ready to teach you how to reduce and eliminate them.

 

Creative Crayon Club: Parties and Gatherings for Teens

May 23, 2008 at 8:45 pm | Posted in 1, attitudes, children, Creative Crayon Club, dads, Families, Family Time, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, How To, moms, Mothers, parents, peer pressure, relationships, Safety, Self Esteem, siblings, teenagers, teens, Tweens, Welcome | Leave a comment
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 Creative Crayon Club

 

 

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This week we will give you some party ideas to have one of those fun safe parties every teen craves 

1. Costume Party

What you need: 

  • A great theme 
  • An appropriate space for the guests Invitations 
  • Music  Supplies for the theme 
  • Lots of Food 

What you do:

Think of a great theme for a costume party with your teen.  Make sure it is something hip and cool so that the teenagers can be creative and still dress appropriately.  A great idea is to be pop stars and then have a fun goofy singing contest during the party (try to get a mic set up).  Make a list and have your teen pass out invitations.  Make a supply list and go with your teen to buy everything.  Make sure to have plenty of food, some cool decorations, and everything everything goes along with the theme!  Activities are good too! 

2. Outdoor Bar-B-Que

What you need: 

  • A nice outdoor space, preferably with water and/or a big field 
  • A grill, table, and some food- make sure to have hamburgers, turkey burgers and veggie burgers, as well as chips and salsa, veggies and dip, etc. to cater to a wide variety of tastes, because teenagers are constantly changing and expressing themselves through outlets such
    as their food choices. 
  • Supplies for activities such as: music, a canoe (if you are near water), soccer ball, foosball equipment, a kickball, frisbee, volleyball, and hammocks are always nice. 

What you do: 

Choose the time and place for the party and pass out invitations.    Think of some activities that the teenagers can do during the party.  Teenagers are constantly on the go, so as many physical activities as possible! Teens love pool parties, so if you have access to one, use it… if you are by a body of water, go swimming and have a canoe or kayak on hand.  Teens love physical challenges like setting up a tight rope, relay races, or tetherball, also have an array of sports options for them to choose between such as soccer, kickball, foosball, frisbee, football, basketball (if you have a hoop), and even break out the old trampoline!

Make sure to have plenty of BBQ food – burgers, snacks, ice tea and lemonade, fruits, veggies, and don’t forget the cookies and ice cream!  Feel free to be creative in you dishes… 

3. Scavenger Hunt/ Murder Mystery 

What you need: 

  • A Murder Mystery Game or Scavenger Hunt: Usually these are bought all planned out, but if you are feeling extracreative you can do it yourself! 
  • Very cool/classy invitations for your teen to pass out. 
  • Costumes and props are essential. 
  • Music is always good. 

What you do: 

Spend some quality time with your teen planning the party.  These types of things have to be planned very precisely, so this becomes one of the most fun parts of the process.    Pass out the invites and set up for the party (make the list and go shopping together).  Make sure to get some decorations to go along with the theme, and feel free to dress up too!  Give yourself a role as the uninvolved overseer of the building the mystery takes place, or the overseer of the scavenger hunt ‘just making sure they are getting along ok’ so you can be involved in the party without being involved in the actual game. 

Have fun!  and of course … no teen party is complete without a dance-off and/or limbo contest and a lot of food!!!

These party ideas came directly from my eldest daughter.  They are parties we either had or she attended.  And I want to let you know-  She balked at the idea of these parties, her friends loved them.  And by giving her the respect to have a real party, not just a stand around and be stupid party, her self esteem soared.  People still talk about the great parties she had.  So go for fun, be cool, give respect and get respect back. 

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Wisdom Wednesday: Prom Problems and Teen Social Gatherings

May 21, 2008 at 7:54 am | Posted in 1, attitudes, children, dads, Families, Family Time, Fun Activities, GEM Parenting Secrets, Health, How To, marriage, moms, Mothers, parents, peer pressure, relationships, Safety, Self Esteem, siblings, teenagers, teens, Tweens, Wednesday Wisdom, Welcome | 1 Comment
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Prom Problems and Teen Social Gatherings

Teen gatherings have always been one of those problems that parents have a hard time dealing with.  How do you allow teens to gather, keep everyone safe and legal, as a parent not being part of the party, and still know what is going on and be responsible for what is happening at your house?  And what do you do when your teen is going someplace else?  Is there any way to guide without clipping your teen’s wings?

That is some tall order, especially now with the Internet adding to the mixture.  First, I want to share some ideas to help you that are tried and true.  Then we will touch on how to incorporate them into wireless communications. 

When teens gather they want to be independent, yet they are either not of legal age or mature enough to be totally in control of their gatherings.  Rather than let your teen just simply have a gathering, start with guidelines, hard and solid rules, and talk about issues that might come up.

You as the parent pick the rules.  Ask your teen if there are any that he/she wants to add.  Sometimes they do surprise you.  Here are a number of rules to pick from.  You do not need to have all the rules for every party.  But it is good to have the list in front of you when you are discussing your own rules.  This way it is not just you, the dumb parent, who is laying down the law.

  • Nothing illegal at the party. Abusers will be asked to leave.
  • An invitation list with a maximum number of guests. To be determined, written on a hard copy (that means printed or written out), a specified number of hours before the party begins- I suggest 24 hours.
  • Only guests on the invitation list. Party bashers will be asked to leave.
  • A beginning and ending time of the party.
  • Backpacks and other carry-ins to be placed in public space.
  • Parents will NOT participate in party unless requested by own teen.
  • Parents will interact/be around and visible during party.

With these as hard rules, you can have guidelines that bring the teens to be responsible for having their party be one of distinction and finesse, as well as be all-out fun and awesome.  Let your teen choose a partner who is both reliable and responsible to help plan the party.  Have real paper invitations.  This is of course more work, but this does mean that your teen actually invites who he/she wants to.  These can be quick copies from your home printer, passed out by hand.  Have your teen put the individuals’ names on the invitations.  You can have a theme party.  And I can tell you from personal experience, your teen will balk and cry and just walk away at the idea.  But when you actually have the party, everyone will have a blast. 

Guide your teen to understand that having a large group is both a privilege and a responsibility and the responsibility is all on your teen’s shoulders.  But now in most states it is also the parents’ responsibility.  Let your teen know this fact; there are many states and towns that hold the adult legally responsible for what happens on their property.

As I mentioned, there is the issue of the Internet now.  Let your teen understand that gatherings at your house, even if shared through the Internet, are going to be set in hard copy.  The Internet is a tool to communicate, but it does not have to be a tool to have your house trampled by hundreds of teens.  Be aware- there are regular confirmed reports of teen parties with Internet invitations that have five hundred or more teens show up!

And through all this you, as the parent, can have fun.  Relax and enjoy the good friends your teen has.  Remember, soon your teen will be an adult and have these parties completely on their own.  This is your chance to help them understand why and how to have a good time, yet stay within personal boundaries.

 

Grace E. Mauzy, MA works with overwhelmed, stressed parents having difficulty comfortably cope with parenting. Parents learn positive intervention utilizing strategies and tactics to develop high self-esteem in children. Grace is the founder of GEM Parenting – an online community dedicated to parenting with passion, purpose, and integrity. (GEMParenting.com) Through Grace’s professional and personal life experiences, she has a unique ability to understand and empower parents to implement new parenting styles, allowing them to challenge themselves to break free of their destructive behaviors and attitudes.  And raise their children with confidence, peace, and harmony.  To learn more about her powerful speaking, coaching, and workshops, or to receive Grace’s motivating audio course “The 7 Deadly Mistakes Parents Make That Create Spoiled Brats – And How You Can Avoid Them!” visit http://www.7deadlymistakesparentsmake.com or visit http://www.GEMParenting.com.

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