how to parent positively

May 5, 2009 at 2:58 pm | Posted in 1 | 1 Comment
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The Power of Positive Energy –. Your attitude and perspective deeply affect how you present yourself to the world. A famous quote by Emerson reads: Enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success. When you do a thing, do it with all your might. Put your whole soul into it. Stamp it with your own personality. Be active, be energetic, be enthusiastic and faithful, and you will accomplish your objective. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. Learn that what you get back in life has a direct correlation with what you give. This is so important for parents. We are the ones who have to do the worst part of raising a kid. We have to get them to grow up right. Now that takes about everything we can think of and then some. And we, the parents, are the ones who have to nag and complain, pay attention to the crap on the floor, notice the dirty clothes heaped up waist high even though we vowed to never pay attention to the mess and smell again. Yep we are filled with the negative side of the whole thing. But we have an escape we can use our own positive energy to change what we see and what we attend to. With Law of Attraction what attend to brings it more energy. But how can you really only pay positive attention while raising your kids? Don’t you really have to notice all those awful things? And what about safety? That has to be a prime factor of parenting. Yes of course, only here’s the deal. When you give some positive energy to what you have been taught is negative it will no longer be negative. I had a six year old who had massive tantrums. I unquestionably HATED those tantrums. But rather than hold onto the negative, I focused on the fact that my child would always be free from perpetrators. She had a great set of lungs. I found opera music for her to sing along with. When she was seven her loud tantrums would often include a bit of operatic sounds. Now she is eight and rarely tantrums. But she knows about opera music. You can do the same with any negative. It’s not always getting rid of the behavior. It may be changing your opinion of the behavior or your reaction to it. Just remember to hold true to your values and morals. Have a great day parenting and living with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity, Grace

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  1. Grace,

    I just LOVE the idea you had to use the opera music in regard to the tantrum problem. I think it’s classic that she then went on to make operatic sounds during tantrums… before discontinuing having them.

    Also, like you said, she learned about opera music in the process!

    What a perfect way to mask her tantrum sounds (to keep your sanity) at tantrum time, expose her to music she probably hadn’t been exposed to before that, and possibly even soothe her during those tantrums with the music itself.

    What a smart idea!

    My daughter is eight and she plays electronic keyboard, organ, and piano. This year at school she also learned recorder in music class. She just signed up to take the flute starting next year at school. (She’ll keep playing piano, which she started at age 4 after showing an unusual attraction to pianos). We’re so glad we got her into lessons early because she really has a natural gift when it comes to music. (At least that’s what her piano teacher and school music teacher keep telling us).

    Any solution to a problem that involves music plays well in this house. 🙂

    Jeanne


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