Are You a Process Parent?

April 13, 2009 at 1:02 pm | Posted in 1 | Leave a comment
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It’s Motivational Monday.
And for me it’s another new beginning.
I have a few times each year that I have a
sense of starting again.

And the end of the ski competitions season is one of them.

For my family it happened yesterday.
This means that the intense dedicated time of the year
is over.
It’s time to let the slower, relaxed attitudes settle in and develop.

And the change is rather difficult to tell the truth.
You see when we are dedicated and
purposeful we think we are doing things
that have meaning.

As we step away from having our days
filled with this meaning where are we?

Now here is a question:
Do we do our ski competing because it will get
Us (my kids) to some end point?

Or do we do this high level of ski competitions
because of the
process that we have while doing it?

If you know anything about me you will
know the answer is simple.

It’s the process.
Maybe it will get the kids into
great colleges:
Maybe it will get them into
higher level competitions:
Maybe it will make people
say WOW about them.
Maybe they will have newspaper and magazine
articles written about them.

But those are so far from the reasons
to commit to doing something.

These are things that may happen
Because of the awesome way the kids
Do things.

And yes they will happen, but don’t do things
because of the possibility of the result.

It makes your life and your kid’s life hollow.
If you are going to set up your kids life
to have the deepest meaning, then do things for the
meaning, not what they can get for your kids.

Motivation for today:
Find meaning in what you do, what your kids do.
And live for the process not the product.

As always
Parent with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity.


PS. Need to understand how you can change from
being a parent dedicated to the outcome to a parent living for
the process?
In other words “How to raise a grounded kid in a world that
is about preparing your kid to get into a good school?”

New tele-series coming soon.
Watch for it.

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