Costumes at 80

November 6, 2008 at 7:09 am | Posted in Families, Self Esteem | 5 Comments
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Tomorrow we celebrate my mother’s 80th birthday.  We are going to Plymouth Plantation in Mass.  And we are going to wear period costumes.  So here’s the thing.  She is turning 80.  She can still decide to have fun, be creative, and step out of the norm.

When she first sent out the invitations there were plenty of people who had negative reactions.  Not to the party of course, but the abnormality of wearing costumes and even to going to Plymouth Plantation.  (Most people can drive there and those that have to fly would have to fly to where ever the party was.  And my mother’s house is not big enough to hold many people, so they would still have to stay in a hotel.)

My mom just kept telling everyone more or less the same thing.  “This is my 80th birthday party.  I plan to have lots of fun.  I hope you will as well.”  

This simple phrase allowed her to tell every one that she was comfortable with her plan; that she did not need their approval to go forward with her plan.  And as you can imagine everyone who is able to come is coming, in costume, and very excited about getting together. 

The point is, be confident with your ideas, your interests, your passions.  Even if you get disapproval from others, stay true to yourself.  The only way you can have high self-esteem is to be comfortable with your self.  Don’t rely on others opinions of you mold you.

And here comes a huge problem for parents.  You must by default mold your children’s behaviors.  You cannot just let them run wild.  So how do you mold your children and keep them having a high self-esteem?  The most important defense against destryong your children’s self esteem is positive intervention.

Positive intervention is staying true to your morals and values.  Look at how a situation may develop. Have some ways of averting situations.  Tell your children that you are helping them to understand the best paths for them.

As you go through the process of raising your children, believe that you and they are a gift of life.  Know this in your heart.  Hold it true.

And parent with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity

Grace

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  1. Happy Birthday to your Mom,

    I have stood at the grave site of my son and learned by the GRACE of GOD to
    allow my children to unfold as GOD made them Not mold them to what I want.
    They have a choice to follow Gods example set by me on this earth.

    This was sent to my email by Lynn Ball, posted with permission

  2. This was also sent to my email, posted with permission.

    Very nice Grace. I wish your mother a happy day.
    I appreciate your words at the end of your message.
    Suzan

  3. Thanks Grace – that was a great way to start my day. All of your
    tidbits and talks make me think.

    Thanks! Paula

    Again sent to my email.

  4. Happy Birthday to your mom, great you all a party to celebrate.

    Some seniors aren’t so lucky.

    http://novice101.wordpress.com/2008/11/16/happy-birthday-darling/

  5. Yes we were so lucky to have our family with all those seniors together and the young ones. It was just wonderful. We all had a great time dressing up, putting on dances and skits, and simply being together for a weekend.


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