How to Use Early Socialization and Keep Peer Pressure at Bay For Life.

August 5, 2008 at 5:23 pm | Posted in children, dads, Families, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | 1 Comment
Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

Of course after slamming working moms yesterday, I knew I wanted to comment on the other side of the coin. 

 

How to Use Early Socialization and Keep Peer Pressure at Bay For Life.

 

When your child is young and impressionable is a wonderful time to set up life values and morals.  Let these be part of how you live and how your child lives.  Let your values be your guidelines.  Hold fast and never waiver.

If your child is in preschool or daycare absolutely only choose a place that you feel is fantastic, comfortable, and loving.  Don’t pick the place that is most convenient and don’t decide simply on price.  Get the place that is best for you and your family.

When you lower your standards, you dismiss your child’s value as a person in the process.  Choose anywhere from three to ten values that you truly believe in.  Live by them.  Use them as your guide when setting up your child’s socialization and activities.

My favorite values are:

  • Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.
  • There is no bad weather, only bad dressing- I am an out door enthusiast.
  • Variety is the spice of life.
  • Every one is neurotic about something; so don’t worry about theirs or yours.
  • Being polite is necessary.
  • With every privilege comes responsibility.
  • You are what you eat.
  • Physical activity is essential for well-being.
  • Love and cherish your children- always.
  • Follow the Serenity Prayer

 

When you become clear about your values and morals, take them to heart and practice them, you can have your children at home full time, in part time socialized situations or in full time day care, and you will be providing your children with the only recipe to enable them to have “solid self-esteem, individual strength and character…and be friendly, well adjusted and smart.”  (Amy- comment from yesterday) 

 

The point is by setting up your life and your child’s life to be set on a solid course of values and morals; you free your child from needing to look to others for approval.  By seeing that even when faced with criticism and problems you hold your ground, you know who you are, what is important, and what to let go of, your child learns from basic living that inner strength, self confidence, and personal resolve create inner peace and harmony. 

Give yourself the credit you deserve.  Put your values down on paper.  Put them right out in front where anyone who comes in your house can see them.  Love them and cherish them. 

If you don’t really know your values now, you can use ones that are already out there.  Every religion has them.  They are all over the place.  And, as you can see from mine, be specific about whom you are and what you think is One Hundred Percent Essential for your family. 

 

As always,

Parent with Passion, Purpose, and Integrity,

Grace

Advertisements

1 Comment »

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URI

  1. I appreciat your blog. I am concerned about families, even though my own children are adults (I still have young grandchildren). There is another blog that I also like regarding the “rules” for children. It is “Three rules for children” on http://www.drbethrobinson.com website. Dr. Robinson also has a coloring book for young children that teaches safety.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Blog at WordPress.com.
Entries and comments feeds.

%d bloggers like this: