How to Make Time Stand Still as a Parent.

July 17, 2008 at 6:38 am | Posted in 1, children, dads, moms, Mothers, parents, Self Esteem | Leave a comment
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Feature Article: How to Make Time Stand Still as a Parent.
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Its already Thursday, I just can’t believe how time flies in the summer.  Here we are in the middle of July and I am thinking it is still the middle of June.

 

I understand that happens to all of us.  And we all wonder, “Where has the time gone?” 

 

I am really thinking this today as yesterday I took my dog to the vet for a check up.  He is sixteen years old!!!  He is in pretty good health, but has some fluid on the lungs. 

 

But I think about that little girl who was my daughter then, who is now an adult living in California by herself.  The time does pass and it goes quickly. 

 

That brings me to the feature article.  How can you hold time just a bit longer?  Let it linger a while before racing forward?

 

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Feature article:

 

How to make Time Stand Still as a Parent

 

Time is so elusive.  There are times when we think can’t it ever just stop and then there are times when we want it to speed up and be quicker.  Of course what we want to stay put is what we love.  And what we want to pass quickly is what we are frustrated, confused, overwhelmed, and hurt by.

 

And here is the dilemma.  Most times people teach you how to prolong what you like.  But leave off anything about what you don’t like.

 

When this happens you can have a good idea of helping the parts of your life that you love be longer and they do over run parts of your life that cause you stress.  But with this method you do not get rid of all your stress.  You are replacing some, yes.  But what is left often is magnified.

 

What I want you to do is work on the part of your life that causes you stress.  Put it in perspective of time – Of forever time, not just today, this week, this month, or even this year.  Put it in perspective of your life, of time unending.  When you look at the stress causing incidents that are ruining your parenting right now are they going to be part of your life forever?  Will they disappear as your children get older?  You finish breakfast?  They head off to camp/school? 

 

Most everything that you stress and agonize over will be gone before you can even finish the worrying part.  Rather than be so preoccupied with these annoyances and problems, turn them into the basic process of parenting.  Allow the to be just what happens.  Teeth are somehow hard to get brushed., squabbling does happen, and being over tired exists. 

 

Take the pressure off yourself.  Be imperfect.  Allow your kids their imperfections. 

 

When you change your attitude to this, you actually give yourself more time.  You do not try to overrun the negative with the good.  You actually allow what has been the negative to be changed to neutral.  It is part of being.  Just like breathing, heart pumping, and yes going to the bathroom.  We do all these things without a lot of thought or effort. 

 

By living with these stresses as part of life rather than always trying to escape from them you not only have more time, you reduce the power of the stresses.  

 

The results are you enjoy your kids and parenting more.  And you reduce stress, thus improving your over all health.

 

Enjoy the summer, know that one day your kids will be grown and out of the house.

So be sure to

Parent with passion, purpose, and integrity.

 

Grace

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