Terrific Tuesday: Life Matters…A Mother’s Value

May 5, 2008 at 11:19 pm | Posted in 1, children, Families, Family Time, moms, Mothers, parents, relationships, teens, toddlers | Leave a comment
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A Mother’s Value

By Mark D. Todhunter, M.A 




The day starts many different ways for mothers. Sometimes it is with a whimper and a cry, sometimes the sound of little feet moving around the house, or sometimes it’s that long drawn out familiar call of “Mommmm-meeeeeeeee.” But whatever may be your child’s attention getter of choice, it is the beginning of a new workday.

Unlike your childless counterparts that still have two hours to groom, primp, and adorn themselves, your time card is punched immediately and you get to squeeze those personal hygienic activities between glasses of juice, sagging diapers, and spilt Cheerios and milk. Once your charges have been properly nutritionalized with a breakfast fit for champions, and you have managed to run a brush through your hair a couple of times, you throw on your personal stylist hat. Rummaging through drawers and closets you seek out those perfect matching outfits, complete with socks and hats that will leave your children the talk of the playgroup.
But wait, there seems to be dissension among the ranks. Nobody wants to wear what you have picked out. Have they some how forgotten that you have a keen eye for fashion and have even attended seminars to be able to distinguish between a summer and an autumn? Remembering that you read somewhere along the way that giving your children choices was the key. Thinking quickly, you jump into your negotiator shoes and whip out an optional outfit for each of your children; you think the problem is solved. After ten minutes of further wrangling, you finally give in and settle on the Spiderman tshirt that has been worn for three days in a row for your son, and the pink tutu with the green princess shoes for your daughter.
Once the children have been proper stylized, you jump through the bathroom door and give your hair a 30 second tease and run your brush through it a couple more times. You then start herding kids to the door grabbing what ever necessities you can see or remember and lock the door behind you.
Playgroup brings out your more refined skills of police officer, judge, and jury. After a total of six disputes, four trips to time-out, and one physical assault, you have your chauffeur gloves back on, kids loaded, and headed for home.
Once in the house, your deli shop opens and you begin making lunches. Of course your customers are very particular and only will accept the perfect lunch. The tricky part is that last week it was a turkey sandwich with Miracle Whip with the turkey pulled off, and this week it is a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, but not cut.
Once the deli closes it is a chance for your first break when the kids go down for naps. Of course during your break you want to take advantage of the kid free time to do a couple of little things, i.e. pay a few bills, do the grocery list, throw in some laundry, pick up some toys and dust a bit, wash the breakfast and lunch dishes, make the bed, and fold the laundry that was in the dryer.
Just as you are headed for the couch to sit for the remainder of the kid’s naps, you here that very familiar call of the wild, “Mommmm-meeeeeeeee.”
With a smile and a deep sigh, you pick yourself up and move toward the rest of the day which includes adventures in the great backyard, running the family restaurant, washing the dishes, giving baths, reading stories, and of course, hugs and kisses as you lay them down for the night.
For all you mothers out there that make it happen every day so your kids get the best of you, I want to salute you. And I especially want to salute the mother that makes it happen for my children, thank you.
I also want to encourage you by letting you know that Salary.com has estimated that a fair wage for the typical stay-at-home mother would be about $150,579 a year. But the wage for being a Mommy….PRICELESS!
You can visit Mark Todhunter’s website at MarkTodhunter.com to email, or make comments and suggestions.
Mark Todhunter is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Professional Life Coach, Conference and Seminar speaker, and columnist and have worked with couples, families and children for the past 22 years

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