Feedback Friday: Spring Sports and Children’s Morals

May 2, 2008 at 9:59 pm | Posted in 1 | Leave a comment

Ask Grace…

Questions & Answers

♥ My daughter is on a gymnastics team that trains five days a week. She has no time to do anything else but train and do her homework. I don’t think this is healthy for her. What can I do?

First, decide how passionate your daughter is about gymnastics.  Decide if she has time to interact with the other girls while in the gym. And notice if she is actually friends with these girls or if she feels she is merely a teammate.

Second, if your daughter is not totally passionate about gymnastics, talk with her about taking an afternoon off each week. She can rotate the afternoons, or pick one afternoon. I caution you to keep the afternoon free. Don’t fill it up with another organized activity. Remember, if the coach says this is not acceptable, you do pay the bill. Be gentle but firm. We need to do this for a while.

Third, begin to arrange and create social gatherings with the other girls around the practices. You can have a gym-girls sleep over, have dinner together before/after practice, and go to a movie. Sometimes with individual sports there is not much done as a team. Have the girls make support cards/posters for each other before meets. Have pre/after meet gatherings.

♥ All my son’s friends are into organized sports. But my son really enjoys things like kayaking, rock climbing, and other unorganized outdoor sports. I am worried that by being off on these activities he will be left out of things with his school friends.

If his school friends have not figured out that he is interested in other things by now they don’t care. On the other hand, if he is losing friends because of his different interests he can find new friends.

To do this, seek out programs and groups that are geared for his age group. Make an effort to meet the other parents. From these like-minded children friendships will develop. The most important thing is to look to the gem in your child. Bring the gem to the sunlight. And others will see that gem as precious as well. But there is no need to try and change the gem to meet the needs of peers. Your child will flourish with the ability to be himself. Cherish your son’s enthusiasm and individual interests.

Grace E. Mauzy, MA works with overwhelmed, stressed parents having difficulty comfortably cope with parenting. Parents learn positive intervention utilizing strategies and tactics to develop high self-esteem in children. Grace is the founder of GEM Parenting – an online community dedicated to parenting with passion, purpose, and integrity.

Through Grace’s professional and personal life experiences, she has a unique ability to understand and empower parents to implement new parenting styles, allowing them to challenge themselves to break free of their destructive behaviors and attitudes. And raise their children with confidence, peace, and harmony. To
learn more about her powerful speaking, coaching, and workshops, or to receive Grace’s motivating audio course “The 7 Deadly Mistakes Parents Make That Create Spoiled Brats – And How You Can Avoid Them!” visit http://www.7deadlymistakesparentsmake.com or visit http://www.GEMParenting.com.

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